I tried to make a poll about this before and managed to screw it up, but I think it's okay this time. I also added a lot more possible answers.
Commence attempt #2!
[quote name='jan777' post='3268148' date='Nov 16 2010, 02:38 AM']Also at Open relationships topic,
IMO women = whore/sluts
men = lucky
(no offence, just pointing out that it affect peoples view of you, especially today where people are very judgmental.)[/quote]
Yeah. I recently saw a fake documentary-style film called the Girlfriend Experience about a woman in a really one sided open relationship-- she was living with her boyfriend who is faithful, but he knows she makes her living as a very high priced escort. Since she pays bills, and doesn't seem to concern herself with her customers for any more reason than they are her clients and they are real people, it carries on okay for a while.
So the guy brings it up with some buddies when he goes to Vegas one weekend, calling it an open relationship, and they're all like, why in the hell aren't you getting any extra here? That's not his motive, but it also reminds me of some Polys I knew as a teenager and young adult. I've heard of Poly men who had multi ladies but I've heard of (and actually met) a lot more Poly women who have multi partners (including other women). I think fewer men make the choice to have multiple partners even in Poly relationships, at least, outside of reality TV, but that comes from my life experiences and not any real data.
Also, the locale where you're living has a lot to do with how people view you. The long-term poly's I've known, people who are way past experimental, lived in the San Fransisco or NYC areas, and I've never actually known any outside of those areas that professed to actually love more than one partner. Everyone outside of those places that had multiple partners were just swingers, or people who wanted to add spice to a relationship that looked monogamous on the outside but was freaky in the bedroom.
Accordingly, people outside those two areas rarely seemed to separate polyamory from swinging or being outright promiscuous.
Commence attempt #2!
[quote name='jan777' post='3268148' date='Nov 16 2010, 02:38 AM']Also at Open relationships topic,
IMO women = whore/sluts
men = lucky
(no offence, just pointing out that it affect peoples view of you, especially today where people are very judgmental.)[/quote]
Yeah. I recently saw a fake documentary-style film called the Girlfriend Experience about a woman in a really one sided open relationship-- she was living with her boyfriend who is faithful, but he knows she makes her living as a very high priced escort. Since she pays bills, and doesn't seem to concern herself with her customers for any more reason than they are her clients and they are real people, it carries on okay for a while.
So the guy brings it up with some buddies when he goes to Vegas one weekend, calling it an open relationship, and they're all like, why in the hell aren't you getting any extra here? That's not his motive, but it also reminds me of some Polys I knew as a teenager and young adult. I've heard of Poly men who had multi ladies but I've heard of (and actually met) a lot more Poly women who have multi partners (including other women). I think fewer men make the choice to have multiple partners even in Poly relationships, at least, outside of reality TV, but that comes from my life experiences and not any real data.
Also, the locale where you're living has a lot to do with how people view you. The long-term poly's I've known, people who are way past experimental, lived in the San Fransisco or NYC areas, and I've never actually known any outside of those areas that professed to actually love more than one partner. Everyone outside of those places that had multiple partners were just swingers, or people who wanted to add spice to a relationship that looked monogamous on the outside but was freaky in the bedroom.
Accordingly, people outside those two areas rarely seemed to separate polyamory from swinging or being outright promiscuous.
