lol good point.
I am not going to read 65 pages, so don't get mad if someone had these same problems before me.
I just used the link at the start of this thread and downloaded rominator. I dragged and dropped some roms into the window. however, the icons don't show up. when I link up my micro sd, it can find it, but no sub directories. also, when I change the rom database in the settings, it doesn't detect sub directories there either. and what's with the boxart thing?! when I try using the little download boxart feature it doesn't work at all.
p.s. when I click show rom icon in the settings, it just says DS in a white box next to the rom.
so far it can't do anything that I can't do by browsing through my folders.