How do you reach out to people?

[ChronoCrossfangirl2002]

I mean in the context of having a conversation with someone you see often be it online or in person, who seems pretty cool
yet you wanna talk to them more because they are fun to interact with.

i overall tend to keep my distance until they approach me for another conversation as i'm not one to typically know how
to start one unless i'm already close to someone

 

[JuanMena]

Usually people starts conversations with me, not from me to others... unless they're doing something interesting.

I've noticed people just are curious, and, if they get interested in whatever you're doing at the moment, they just approach you.

The tone of voice and how you respond at first matters a lot too. You don't want to give the wrong first impression, for instance, new people often asks me if "I'm mad" because of my deep voice, but that's just my voice. So I try to put a less "resting bitch face", smile a little when I see people approaching me. Lower a bit my voice, listen to them and then reply appropiately.

I rarely speak to other people, but when I do I simply do that exact same thing, change my face a little, change my voice a little, be polite, the rest will work out by itself.

 

[The_Dizzy_Vizzy]

I just butt-in and say hello. See? It's easy, even if you're shy. I'd say most people are open to conversing with a total stranger. If not, nobody on this planet would have any, dangit whatta ya call'em...oh yeah, "friends".

The only kind if person you want to steer clear of is an asshole. When you approach an asshole, they will mostly have a blank expression on their face, waiting for you to initiate the conversation. These are the kinds of people who will answer you in roughly five words or less, stare at you as if you're supposed to say something (putting you on the spot) and are clearly unfriendly people. Not to say they couldn't engage in conversation, but if they did you'd spot it for what it is - " fun" at your expense. Leave immediately, or try again with someone else.

Making a real friend is worth the bullshit you sometimes have to go through.

 

[ChronoCrossfangirl2002]

I just butt-in and say hello. See? It's easy, even if you're shy. I'd say most people are open to conversing with a total stranger. If not, nobody on this planet would have any, dangit whatta ya call'em...oh yeah, "friends". The only kind if person you want to steer clear of is an asshole. When you approach an asshole, they will mostly have a blank expression on their face, waiting for you to initiate the conversation. These are the kinds of people who will answer you in roughly five words or less, and are clearly unfriendly people. Not to say they couldn't engage in conversation, but if they did you'd spot it for what it is - " fun" at your expense. Leave immediately, or try again with someone else. Making a real friend is worth the bullshit you sometimes have to go through.

your last point very much reminds me of a point my friend made where he basically said that friendships are gonna have arguments/conflict though thing that's important is how that conflict is handled, nevertheless I've noticed that as well with, either they're overall not good people or just that moment you see them they're probably having a bad week/week/month

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Usually people starts conversations with me, not from me to others... unless they're doing something interesting.

I've noticed people just are curious, and, if they get interested in whatever you're doing at the moment, they just approach you.

The tone of voice and how you respond at first matters a lot too. You don't want to give the wrong first impression, for instance, new people often asks me if "I'm mad" because of my deep voice, but that's just my voice. So I try to put a less "resting bitch face", smile a little when I see people approaching me. Lower a bit my voice, listen to them and then reply appropiately.

I rarely speak to other people, but when I do I simply do that exact same thing, change my face a little, change my voice a little, be polite, the rest will work out by itself.

typically have resting bitch face or just look like that tired donkey from aggretsuko, but i've noticed for me when in public i typically smile by default mostly because i tend to like going out

 

[cearp]

You must know how to send me a message!

 

[The_Dizzy_Vizzy]

your last point very much reminds me of a point my friend made where he basically said that friendships are gonna have arguments/conflict though thing that's important is how that conflict is handled, nevertheless I've noticed that as well with, either they're overall not good people or just that moment you see them they're probably having a bad week/week/month

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typically have resting bitch face or just look like that tired donkey from aggretsuko, but i've noticed for me when in public i typically smile by default mostly because i tend to like going out

Friends occassionally get into tiffs. Some are of no consequence, others can be more heated and consequential. I've never lost a friend over a fight. Not one. So don't worry about fights, they will go just as quickly as they begin.

 

[BigOnYa]

I capture a pigeon from my yard, then tie a small note to it's feet, then tell it the address to goto and it flies away.
Still waiting for any replies, but eventually it will come.

 

[MPRTwice]

I mean in the context of having a conversation with someone you see often be it online or in person, who seems pretty cool
yet you wanna talk to them more because they are fun to interact with.

i overall tend to keep my distance until they approach me for another conversation as i'm not one to typically know how
to start one unless i'm already close to someone

I used to be very shy and nearly mute because I was afraid of saying the wrong thing. But it's relaxing to have no cares (worries) and just walk right up and try to start a conversation. That's what I recommend. I got fed up with worrying about what others thought of me, and I've been much more easygoing as a result.

Just relax and be yourself!

 

[Skv0ra]

I used to be very shy and nearly mute because I was afraid of saying the wrong thing. But it's relaxing to have no cares (worries) and just walk right up and try to start a conversation. That's what I recommend. I got fed up with worrying about what others thought of me, and I've been much more easygoing as a result.

Just relax and be yourself!

The bar approach - everyone is a complete stranger and thus no one cares about others' opinions since you'll likely never see them again, and that makes shooting the shit so much easier. And memes/jokes, the ultimate ice-breakers.

 

[AncientBoi]

, , and sometimes using the internationally known

 

[ChronoCrossfangirl2002]

I used to be very shy and nearly mute because I was afraid of saying the wrong thing. But it's relaxing to have no cares (worries) and just walk right up and try to start a conversation. That's what I recommend. I got fed up with worrying about what others thought of me, and I've been much more easygoing as a result.

Just relax and be yourself!

honestly yeah i see what you mean, truth be told i used to be very worried about what others think about me and still do but it's very rare. in recent years I've become more apprehensive of the idea of changing yourself for the sake of others to like you because I've seen many do it and while i can understand it comes form a place of insecurity, i feel like if you know that you mean well then you shouldn't be afraid to be yourself.

But all things take some sort of courage to do, in this case it's reaching out, and as @Skv0ra suggested: memes, i may try that as i know two people who always randomly sends me a random meme whenever they get home from work and then will ask me how i'm doing after we both laugh about it, and to be completely honest here: i can't believe i just now picked up on that lol

 

[The_Dizzy_Vizzy]

The bar approach - everyone is a complete stranger and thus no one cares about others' opinions since you'll likely never see them again, and that makes shooting the shit so much easier. And memes/jokes, the ultimate ice-breakers.

Fuckin' A.

 

[LoggerMan]

Offer to buy them lunch. Then get them talking about themselves. Then sleep with them and then ghost them.

 

[jurai]

Try touching grass first

 

[The_Dizzy_Vizzy]

honestly yeah i see what you mean, truth be told i used to be very worried about what others think about me and still do but it's very rare. in recent years I've become more apprehensive of the idea of changing yourself for the sake of others to like you because I've seen many do it and while i can understand it comes form a place of insecurity, i feel like if you know that you mean well then you shouldn't be afraid to be yourself.

But all things take some sort of courage to do, in this case it's reaching out, and as @Skv0ra suggested: memes, i may try that as i know two people who always randomly sends me a random meme whenever they get home from work and then will ask me how i'm doing after we both laugh about it, and to be completely honest here: i can't believe i just now picked up on that lol

See? Y'er doin' just fine!

 

[MPRTwice]

Try touching grass first

I tried that, didn't work; I had to touch the ice in negative 10 degrees celsius barefoot first to get to the grass during 2,400 power punches in 48 minutes.

 

[The_Dizzy_Vizzy]

I tried that, didn't work; I had to touch the ice in negative 10 degrees celsius barefoot first to get to the grass during 2,400 power punches in 48 minutes.

JFC!!! Where in the world are you doing all of that in 48 minutes?!?

 

[ChronoCrossfangirl2002]

Try touching grass first

im allergic, sorry

 

[MPRTwice]

JFC!!! Where in the world are you doing all of that in 48 minutes?!? View attachment 545893

Out in the midwest; here's pictures of stage 2 frostbite and my feet in the snow digging through it. (I was bloated on a two liter container of fruit juice; I slimmed down in a single day).

I eat a lot of food because my metabolism is like a hummingbird's; gotta have lots of sugar/"can't take off a jet without jet fuel."

The frostbite fully recovered in 36 hours. Was painful and pale at one point, but I do not regret that training.

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im allergic, sorry

If that is a joke, it's really funny. I enjoy sarcasm a lot. If not, sorry for the "haha" note.

 

[The_Dizzy_Vizzy]

Out in the midwest; here's pictures of stage 2 frostbite and my feet in the snow digging through it. (I was bloated on a two liter container of fruit juice; I slimmed down in a single day).

I eat a lot of food because my metabolism is like a hummingbird's; gotta have lots of sugar/"can't take off a jet without jet fuel."

The frostbite fully recovered in 36 hours. Was painful and pale at one point, but I do not regret that training.

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If that is a joke, it's really funny. I enjoy sarcasm a lot. If not, sorry for the "haha" note.

Jesus dude, remind me not to fuck with you in any given parking lot...