My girlfriend is pissed off at me...

I think it's just she's a having a certain time of the month.
Not trying to be mean or anything but that would explain it.

[quote name='FireGrey' post='3319960' date='Dec 11 2010, 12:01 AM']I think it's just she's a having a certain time of the month.
Not trying to be mean or anything but that would explain it.[/quote]
It would explain it, but I been around for "That time of the month" 6 times, and never seen her like this... WHAT THE FUCK!!

[quote name='Argentum Vir' post='3319962' date='Dec 11 2010, 02:04 PM'][quote name='FireGrey' post='3319960' date='Dec 11 2010, 12:01 AM']I think it's just she's a having a certain time of the month.
Not trying to be mean or anything but that would explain it.[/quote]
It would explain it, but I been around for "That time of the month" 6 times, and never seen her like this... WHAT THE FUCK!!
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Maybe she was just trying hard to not be mean or anything back then.

[quote name='FireGrey' post='3319966' date='Dec 11 2010, 12:06 AM'][quote name='Argentum Vir' post='3319962' date='Dec 11 2010, 02:04 PM'][quote name='FireGrey' post='3319960' date='Dec 11 2010, 12:01 AM']I think it's just she's a having a certain time of the month.
Not trying to be mean or anything but that would explain it.[/quote]
It would explain it, but I been around for "That time of the month" 6 times, and never seen her like this... WHAT THE FUCK!!
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Maybe she was just trying hard to not be mean or anything back then.
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Hopefully that's true, otherwise this makes me think she just doesn't like me anymore. :/

EDIT: I have honestly gone back through what I said, and how I said it and I cannot find a legitimate reason for her to have been angry.

The "time of month" wouldn't have the effect. They don't get pissed off, they're just in some wicked pain because of it.

It'd help if you explained from the time you picked her up too what you guys spoke about.

Maybe she was getting tired from,,, that time of month [which you should keep a note on as it's around the same time each month], and then when she was enjoying the lights, you said that, and you didn't really say the right thing. If you said "They are really pretty." or something like that, maybe it would have been different.

Ahhh... women are strange creatures aren't they? I found out that through recent experience though, if you put your ego aside and put yourself at their position, it is not that difficult to see why they are the way they are. Sometimes you feel strong about something, but if you be a little careful and take a step back you can prevent all kinds of fighting, from women AND from men. EVEN if you are 100% correct, the fact that you stubbornly argue against someone is not correct. Reading your story I honestly don't know what her problem is, but her anger HAS to root from something. Let it slide and even apologize and be sincere about it, if you do, I guarantee you that she will be nice to you again. Women do have these emotional problems from time to time, but they are like ice, with your warm words they melt in no time. (that sounded cheesier than I thought...)
There will be guys here telling you not to give in, because that will weaken your position in the relationship, but a relationship is not a pissing contest, are you trying to win a prize or something?

Sounds like it could be her time. Sometimes my gf has when she gets nasty for no reason and its always because of that. One thing I learned is that every period is different. Just becasue a girl doesnt act out thr ordinary normally doesnt it wont happen during the next one. See how she is tomorrow and check if she back to normal. If she is dont bring it up and forget about it. If its not then ask what the exact cause was. If her excuse is vague ir doesnt make sense the ndemand a logical answer. If shes still cold to you just leave and go home. If shes complains just say the same thing she said to you when at the endo f the night. Usually when I do that it snaps my gf back to normal after a few minutes.

[quote name='Westside' post='3319983' date='Dec 10 2010, 10:25 PM']Ahhh... women are strange creatures aren't they? I found out that through recent experience though, if you put your ego aside and put yourself at their position, it is not that difficult to see why they are the way they are. Sometimes you feel strong about something, but if you be a little careful and take a step back you can prevent all kinds of fighting, from women AND from men. EVEN if you are 100% correct, the fact that you stubbornly argue against someone is not correct. Reading your story I honestly don't know what her problem is, but her anger HAS to root from something. Let it slide and even apologize and be sincere about it, if you do, I guarantee you that she will be nice to you again. Women do have these emotional problems from time to time, but they are like ice, with your warm words they melt in no time. (that sounded cheesier than I thought...)
There will be guys here telling you not to give in, because that will weaken your position in the relationship, but a relationship is not a pissing contest, are you trying to win a prize or something?[/quote]

Unless she's one of the types who say "What are you apologizing for, do you even know?" Then he'll be digging himself a bigger hole. So it's about a 50/50 to pull off that move.

I will just leave her alone for a few days. Her mom likes me, and she actually tells little useful bits of info here and there. I may have to hit her mom up to see if she calmed down. Otherwise, I'll give her a call here in the next few days. It really doesn't bother me that much (well just a little). Though I did just spend about $50 on tonight, and she didn't even touch her food. Meh.

[quote name='ShadowSoldier' post='3319988' date='Dec 11 2010, 01:27 AM'][quote name='Westside' post='3319983' date='Dec 10 2010, 10:25 PM']Ahhh... women are strange creatures aren't they? I found out that through recent experience though, if you put your ego aside and put yourself at their position, it is not that difficult to see why they are the way they are. Sometimes you feel strong about something, but if you be a little careful and take a step back you can prevent all kinds of fighting, from women AND from men. EVEN if you are 100% correct, the fact that you stubbornly argue against someone is not correct. Reading your story I honestly don't know what her problem is, but her anger HAS to root from something. Let it slide and even apologize and be sincere about it, if you do, I guarantee you that she will be nice to you again. Women do have these emotional problems from time to time, but they are like ice, with your warm words they melt in no time. (that sounded cheesier than I thought...)
There will be guys here telling you not to give in, because that will weaken your position in the relationship, but a relationship is not a pissing contest, are you trying to win a prize or something?[/quote]

Unless she's one of the types who say "What are you apologizing for, do you even know?" Then he'll be digging himself a bigger hole. So it's about a 50/50 to pull off that move.
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Well, he could think about it, it is usually not that difficult to see where they are coming from especially if you are actually in that situation. One thing he could apologize for is the fact that he kept on arguing with her which pisses many people off. I do this a lot myself, people get really angry when you keep trying to bring in new points to argue with them when they are firm and solid in their beliefs no matter how silly the subject may seem. If he tells her that he believes he was wrong for not hearing her out and arguing with her, then there is not reason anyone who is reasonable would get angry at that, if she DOES get angry then you may reconsider this person. If you really do not want to take the chance for apologizing, then how about asking her what's wrong? Tell her you care about her and you don't like seeing you two at conflict, again, IF she is reasonable, she would be delighted to speak with you. When she does, DO not argue, try your best to speak less and listen more.
I am also not saying that he is, but when someone tells a story of a conflict, we often get a "watered-down" version of the story that tells you what is happening from one side. People often make themselves seem more reasonable, and it is incorporated in their writing style. She could be telling a completely different story.

P.S. You also seemed to be really bothered about the money you spent on the dinner. You must've been a little angry at what she said, and even if you don't say anything, verbal communication is a very small proportion of communication, body language makes up a huge proportion. She could've picked up on that and became angry, and every little detail from then on just accumulated negatively. That's what people do when they are angry, even neutral things seem negative.

[quote name='Westside' post='3319983' date='Dec 11 2010, 12:25 AM']Ahhh... women are strange creatures aren't they? I found out that through recent experience though, if you put your ego aside and put yourself at their position, it is not that difficult to see why they are the way they are. Sometimes you feel strong about something, but if you be a little careful and take a step back you can prevent all kinds of fighting, from women AND from men. EVEN if you are 100% correct, the fact that you stubbornly argue against someone is not correct. Reading your story I honestly don't know what her problem is, but her anger HAS to root from something. Let it slide and even apologize and be sincere about it, if you do, I guarantee you that she will be nice to you again. Women do have these emotional problems from time to time, but they are like ice, with your warm words they melt in no time. (that sounded cheesier than I thought...)
There will be guys here telling you not to give in, because that will weaken your position in the relationship, but a relationship is not a pissing contest, are you trying to win a prize or something?[/quote]

You're right and wrong. Men are the same exact way, not just women. And why is "that time of the month" always to blame? Maybe she's just annoyed, people do get that way, including you men doing your time of the month. "That time of the month" for men means you're being an utter douche lord for nothing. (You're not bleeding or cramping, which is basically what "that time" means, even though men make it sound like it only makes us bitchy) Maybe she's just thinking back on something you said before or maybe she just disagrees with you on something. We could sit here and make up guesses all night long, but unless you ask her or she tells you without you asking, you will never know.

It isn't the money I spent on dinner. Seeing as she has done that on several different occasions, but she has never just taken half a bit and basically say "fuck it, I guess I am not really hungry". And if we took something home she would take it with her. Instead of doing that this time, she just left it in my car in a half crumpled bag. Which I am reheating and eating. I really wasn't arguing with her about the time, and I let that redneck thing drop. Then we arrived, and she slammed the door in my face.

Oh, it's too late to ask her anything right now. She'd just get annoyed... more annoyed. Just a little alone time might help, seeing as she has been swamped with school. Not saying it's right she took it out on me if that's the case, but better me than the person that makes her grades.

[quote name='phoenixgoddess27' post='3320002' date='Dec 10 2010, 10:44 PM'](You're not bleeding or cramping, but you're being an utter douche lord for nothing)[/quote] Dammit woman! You disturb our sports games and you don't clean up after us and you never have my food ready for when I get home! And whenever you talk all I hear is "nag nag nag nag nag nag nag nag nag nag nag"!

Good thing I'm not actually like that to them womenz. I don't think I'd be able to be like that o.0

I really wasn't arguing with her about the time, and I let that redneck thing drop. Then we arrived, and she slammed the door in my face.

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Okay I think that's the downfall right there. The fact that you had the redneck thing in the first place.. and if there was an awkward silence or anything after you "dropped it", that didn't help either.

[quote name='ShadowSoldier' post='3320005' date='Dec 11 2010, 12:51 AM'][quote name='phoenixgoddess27' post='3320002' date='Dec 10 2010, 10:44 PM'](You're not bleeding or cramping, but you're being an utter douche lord for nothing)[/quote] Dammit woman! You disturb our sports games and you don't clean up after us and you never have my food ready for when I get home! And whenever you talk all I hear is "nag nag nag nag nag nag nag nag nag nag nag"!

Good thing I'm not actually like that to them womenz. I don't think I'd be able to be like that o.0

I really wasn't arguing with her about the time, and I let that redneck thing drop. Then we arrived, and she slammed the door in my face.

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Okay I think that's the downfall right there. The fact that you had the redneck thing in the first place.. and if there was an awkward silence or anything after you "dropped it", that didn't help either.
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That was my conclusion too. I am just too blind to see where I screwed up. There wasn't much of an awkward silence because there was only a block to go. I also can see that she knows I have no idea what I said wrong.

Dude, don't feel bad. My wife's more or less been the same way. If you're lucky, it's that time of the month and its almost over. If not, find something that starts with the word Rum, and pound a few down.

And rednecks arent the only ones. Some hoodrats leave em up as far as the first week of February.

Something about implying her neighborhood is full of rednecks?
just talk to her and be nice, hoping she'll be nice too.

Also, In our country, people leave Christmas decor until about 3rd week of january, because thats when the feast of the 3 kings or something ends.

the thing is and i have been dating for almost 2 years, men say stupid things that we think women wont get pissed off about. Thank goodness my girlfriend forgives me abotu everyday for my shortcomings. Now why she is pissed, idk if anyone else has pointed this out, you called her neighborhood a redneck town. Dissing your girlfriends residence was not a very good thing especially since as we all can see she is very attached to her neighborhood, shes probably been there for along time and knows everyone on her block. For you thats ok we say stupid things, the thing is have you called her to apologize, apologizes go along way, especially if you want this relationship to work out, if you love her and she loves you, itll work out, also if this is the 1st time she is ever gotten mad at you welcome to the world of women and real dating, its not perfect, ive had my low and high times with my girlfriend, its never going to be perfect. I hope everything works out for you man and keep us updated

also another note, you could've said something even yesterday that set her off, i will not leave out the fact it could be the time of the month my gf has to tell me when hers is, women keep stuff down low and if you are not talking to her everyday and having her tell you everything that is going on your not going to understand her well

you should have called her right away and should have apologized, weather or not you know you can always say "idk what i did tonight but im really sorry for it and i hope i can do something for you to make up for it"

Not sure if I made this clear or not, but it was her that said that "Only rednecks do that" not I. I only told her that people who have other stuff to do will do the same thing. I even gave the example of my parents being guilty of that. Her block is more diverse than san fran, she has like 3 chinese families, 2 mexican families and a couple other cultures I couldn't even begin to tell you. So it isn't like there wouldn't be any chance of a redneck family living somewhere near her. Like I said, I will have a talk about it with her, and I will get it straightened out. If not, well there is always a new years resolution to make.

I was really only just joking. It's my own cheezy brand that has a goofy face attached to the joke so it is a no brainer to know I am joking. I thought she could tell... Perhaps I was wrong in thinking that.

[quote name='Argentum Vir' post='3320056' date='Dec 11 2010, 01:04 AM']Not sure if I made this clear or not, but it was her that said that "Only rednecks do that" not I. I only told her that people who have other stuff to do will do the same thing. I even gave the example of my parents being guilty of that. Her block is more diverse than san fran, she has like 3 chinese families, 2 mexican families and a couple other cultures I couldn't even begin to tell you. So it isn't like there wouldn't be any chance of a redneck family living somewhere near her. Like I said, I will have a talk about it with her, and I will get it straightened out. If not, well there is always a new years resolution to make.

I was really only just joking. It's my own cheezy brand that has a goofy face attached to the joke so it is a no brainer to know I am joking. I thought she could tell... Perhaps I was wrong in thinking that. [/quote]


It doesn't matter how you meant what you said. It never does. All that matters is how the person that you said it to takes it. Communication is about getting ideas across. If the idea is lost its usually both parties fault. My best advice is to do 2 things. Fist choose if you want to be right or you want to be happy. If its not worth fighting over then the answer is ALWAYS whatever SHE wants it to be. Pick your battles and let the small stuff go. The other advice I can offer is IF you do decided its worth an argument,be careful to use I statements. There is a HUGE difference in saying "You're a psycho" and saying "I feel like your are acting psycho. Though I don't recommend saying either of these things, the latter will go over better. Unless she really is psycho,she should respect our opinion. Always use I statements , I feel.. I think.. etc.. You'll be able to say more with less feelings hurt.

One more thing, JUST BECAUSE SHES ACTING CRAZY DOES NOT MEAN ITS HER TIME OF THE MONTH. While women sometimes are a little "uneven" in my book, 90% of the time they are mad at you because YOU FUCKED UP. They will RARELY tell you honestly what happened. They are sensitive and complicated. Men are mostly too blunt and too simple minded to understand. I know I never truly will.

Treat her right and see how it goes

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has she ever done this before ?

don't take this personally, but i dnt like dating the childish - i will get pissed off for no reason - kind of girl.

if its the first time it's ever happened with you and her, then dnt worry so much, she's probably annoyed about something, displacing it on your relationship - as much as it may seem hard, an apology (even if it wasnt your fault) is NOT be the best way around this; talk to her, what pissed her off, rather than just sulking and apologizing (again not that that is a bad thing, but in many cases it sometimes makes things worse) - as above, just try being good to her, and it may pay off.