Is dating supposed to kill your sex drive?

Haha... well yeah, surprise surprise, shadowboy actually went out of his cave for once. We aren't actually "an item" yet. but she already told me she really likes me and I'm just waiting till our next date to make it more romantic when I ask her to be my girlfriend. And she is amazingly beautiful. And smart. And I could go on, but I won't.

But yeah, whats wierd is that ever since we started dating I just don't feel horny.
I mean, literally NOTHING can make me get even the slightest bit that way at all.
Porn, hentai, envisioning hot girls I used to know naked... the only thing I haven't tried is envisioning her naked, and that would just plain and simple be desecrating her image, so I haven't (and won't) tried it. Whats really weird tho is that I don't even want to have sex with her.
I just want to talk, and be romantic... maybe at most after a while a bit of foreplay... but honestly, thats the most I can see myself wanting to do. I think I'm in love, to be honest <3

So my question is: is this normal or am I a freak?

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[quote name='xylos' post='1630261' date='Dec 13 2008, 04:19 PM']Wow... coming out of my latest breakup and now I see this post LOL :wacko: I too felt like I liked her a ton but respected her in every possible manner. Most of the time she was making the first moves for me (it was like 50-50 at first). This could of been the mistake. Respect is a sign of true love and mabey wanting to take a calm relationship...[/quote]

Exactly...I just got out of a relationship and He was the one making all of the first moves. It didn't end up well because he was moving too fast. So the calm relationship thing is the way to go. Hope everything works for you ^_^
 
mthrnite
As soon as she slips up and you catch a glimpse of one of her tentacles, I'm sure you'll come around.
 
xylos
[quote name='mthrnite' post='1630343' date='Dec 13 2008, 11:53 PM']As soon as she slips up and you catch a glimpse of one of her tentacles, I'm sure you'll come around.[/quote]

WTF.. D'you date some alien or somethin'?
 
Raven Darkheart
mthrnite: LMAO!

but seriously, if you lover her just take it slow. youre only 17, that means plenty of time for sex later. at this stage sex isnt the be all end all
 
shadowboy
MTHRNITE!!!!
Haven't seen you in like forever... how have you been?

V_V I'm on to another phase now, still no sex drive but kind of frustration about her old bfs and stuff... probably another blog once I get my laptop (mom is watching netflix on it LOL)
 
mthrnite
I'm doin' alright man. Glad to hear you've got something goin' on. Just a tip: I know it's hard, but try to put the past boyfriends behind you, treat them as non-entities. Keep your eyes open to what's ahead of you though, including ex-bf's that might try to get back into the picture. As long as they're behind you though, no worries. I used to eat myself up over old ex-bf's, but it was jealousy wasted. You have to be taken by your own merits, and not compared to past guys, it helps her to not compare you if you don't try to force the issue by comparing yourself. I hope it works out well. I like a happy ending.
 

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