Man! I only wish I could be like other guys and one-night-stand women, but I can't. Goodness knows I've had the opportunity, but I can't bring myself to just jump in bed with just anyone just because they are there, pretty and are female. I guess I'm old-fashioned or something, but I have to get to know someone first and....I guess you'd call it it bond with them, before I could even possibly think about sleeping with them. Shallow women turn me off.
I've been told that I play the hard-to-get type of guy. I don't go for just any girl....in fact, I've been called gay for not liking and turning away some certain women (which amounts to quite a few actually) that most guys expect other guys to care about. But women have to impress me in some kind of intelligent way. It's hard to explain, but they MUST command my attention, either by what they say or their actions or a very specific type of look and/or mannerism, before I turn-on to them. I'll tell you for a fact that the "cutesy act" does NOT work on me. You know, that way they act when they want something from you....like money or beer or whatever from you....but you KNOW you ain't gonna get anywhere with them? Yeah, that just doesn't work on me. I'm immune that that BS. Too freaking shallow, you know?
I must admit though that looks has at least something to do with it though. Guys, generally speaking, are visual beasts and I'm no different, if a woman is hideous, I can't deal with that (I won't be mean to them, but I don't want to go out with them), but as long as I can tolerate looking at them, then the "bond" can still happen, as long as they impress me with their conversation or actions.
I can honestly say that there have been 2 females on GBAtemp that have impressed me, but I don't do the online dating crap. So other than than a minor intellectual attraction, I consider them inconsequential and not realistically worth pursuing, not to mention I believe one of them to be too young for my 43-year-old ass. I won't mention names, but I would assume one of them (and some staff) might know who I'm intellectually attracted to.....
One thing I've never learned is how to be the perfect asshole. Women SAY they want a sensitive guy, which I am (maybe even more than I should be, for a guy), but they really don't want that type of guy....they want an asshole. My problem is I'm either too much of an asshole or not enough of one to suit most of them.
I'm one of those guys that becomes too....what do you call it.........clingy.......if I like a woman and she like me back, she becomes the center of my universe and that ultimately chases them away because I end up being able to read them like a book and that scares them. It's like I develop and ESP towards them and they seem to HATE that for some reason. You'd think that being totally in-sync with a woman would be sexy, but trust me, it's not. In their eyes, it's considered creepy.
To this day, I can't figure out why girls I have no interest in seem to like me, but girls I'm actually interested in hate me. Apparently I act differently somehow with the ones I find attractive, but I'm not sure how it is that I am different with them. shrug
I've had dozens of girlfriends over my 43 years of life, but only 2 have ever truly grabbed my heart. One was realistically too young (and so was I) to ever happen (she moved away with her parents years before legal age) and the other.....my fiance......died in a car crash..........I don't really want to talk about it, but I haven't dated since......it's been 13 years now........while I've had a few offers to date since that time, and one of them was really cool, but I just couldn't bring myself to......I feel like I'm cheating on her.....my world is a black-hole without her....she was my light, my Dawn......my SunnyD.....my player2.....the positive to my negative.....she was always the happy to my angry...but she's gone now......anger is all I have left.....the only balance I have left is her memory....but it's not enough.....
ahem....I've said enough.