A "Should I or should I not come out?" Clone

I know these sorts of entries aren't everyone's cup of tea, but I guess this is a warning to leave if you want, especially if you don't really care about "coming out" blogs.

Hey everyone, I've decided to make an awkwardly written and somewhat cynical blog entry about coming out to my parents as transgender (which from BurningDesire's thread from a couple of months ago caused quite a bit a havoc due to people's different views, which I say you're allowed to give me advice about not coming out on this entry since I believe everyone is allowed an opinion no matter how "offensive" it could be).

I've been planning on making this entry for a while now but always decide not to since I'm a person who keeps things to herself and isn't "loud and proud" about myself and my interests. This blog entry might be a bit over-dramatic for a thing that isn't big at all. But since this has been going on for a long time and has now made me a "depressed mess" as I call it, I've finally decided to "whine" about it.

I constantly have days where I say I'm going to tell them about it but I always pussy out. My guess is due to my lack of self confidence, and I have no idea if they will be okay with me being trans. (They probably will be okay with it, but heck I'm not sure). I also have a feeling that they know something is wrong now since I'm always a "depressed mess" who stays their bedroom all the time.

All you guys, a few people on other sites and skype, and one person I know irl are the only ones I've told. (The person I told irl was alright with it, but they were a "I don't really care" sort of alright with it.)

If you're wondering why I chose to talk about it on this site, it's because you guys are the only people I talk to, as well as Skype friends.

So I guess this takes me back to my main question: Should I come out and how should I come out? Thanks.
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DeslotlCL
What joyoshi and/or vins said. Oh, and remember, do not let anyone to threat you bad because of that and feel happy for who you are.

btw, i came for the lewd stuff... where is the fucking lewd stuff??
 
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GamerUnity
Being gay is all okay! (Albeit I don't think modifying your body is good)

We support you 100%!!!

You should try approaching them gently, saying:
"Mom, I'm gaaay and, I'm a woman/man now."
"Honey, it's okay! I support you, my lovely daughter/son."
"Did you just ASSUME MY GENDER?" *triggered*
 
G
Sit down with them, talk and if they accept you then fine but if you're not yet 18 or over then wait because it could go either way.
 
LunaWofl
For anything short term you might lose, the long term will likely make up for.
But more to the point, you seem to want to tell them, am I wrong?

It really depends on what you wanna do first and foremost.
 
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Alkéryn
You should come out, what would happen in the worst case scenario ? they would just say that they don't support you on this
but it's more likely that they will agree with your decision which is what you want so you should definitively come out ^^
 
mgrev
I think i have talkef to you about this subject more than enough so you should know my opinion ;)
 
Feeling it!
Honestly parents don't care what you tell them if you're 18 because at that point they expect you to make choices on your own.
From various examples I think the easiest would be simply "I nuked the microwave." "Did you pay your monthly rent?" "Yes." "I don't care."
 
Feeling it!
I love how people say that "we can do anything" and then say that "they were born this way" come on its always a choice but nobody really cares about the difference.
I would rather not get into a bleach drinking contest here but getting into a bleach drinking contest is a choice. XD
 
WeedZ
Everytime I see these posts, I wonder if you kids are even old enough to have developed a sexuality or mature enough to fully understand who you are. Aren't you like fucking 12?
 
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The Catboy
Actually, about 12 years old would be the appropriate age for someone to start questioning their sexuality and or gender.
 
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dimmidice
this might come across as rude, but is it just me or does gbatemp have a much higher transgender population than other forums? i rarely see it brought up anywhere else. yet on this forum it seems like every other day another member turns out to be trans. i don't have a problem with trans people (i'm in the idgaf what other people do camp) but it seems odd that so many people here turn out to be trans.

could just be my perception of course.
 
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The Catboy
It's actually a level of trust. Members of GBATemp tend to feel a lot safer and trust this site over others for a number of reasons. The biggest reason being the community. Even when we disagree, there is always an underlying layer of respect for the individual here. Which is something you don't always find on most sites. It's also safer here because most members rarely have family or friends who know them in real life on the site. So they are a lot more free to express themselves and talk about issues like this
We actually have about a normal amount of LGBT+ members, just our site has more open ones
 
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WeedZ
@Crystal the Glaceon sure, puberty is a time of alot of change and getting to understand yourself as a person. And questioning aspects of your personality and sexuality is normal. But you can't definitely say, in the midst of all this confusion and uncertainty, that it's time to reveal to the world your gender identification. Cause you couldn't possibly have one yet without fully knowing the body you have. Right?

@dimmidice youre not alone. I believe there are transgendered people on gbatemp. But I also believe that the tumblr sexuality nonsense has devalued actual sexual and gender identities to the point that kids see transgender and homo/bi sexuality as just another tumblr fad to jump on to, and that has bled into the temp.
 
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WeedZ
@Crystal the Glaceon I missed your last post, so here's a response for that.

I agree that there is a great and respectful community here, and im glad people are comfertable with being open. But I have to call bullshit on about 50 percent of the "coming out" threads. Not necessarily bubsy. She may be genuine, idk.
 
The Catboy
WeedZ Tumblr is a stain the LGBT+ community and I wish someone would buy out that site and shut it down. They've made a mockeray of us.
True, it's not the time when someone knows who they are, but it's still the time when they start questioning. Either way, the OP (according to their profile) is 18, which would means she's more than ready to really start knowing who she is. I was 19 when I finally came out as transgender.
I don't know if I could say "50%," but there are a lot that either trolls or simply jumping on the bandwagon. I think part of what sparked this is mostly seeing popular members like Aurora Wright and myself being open and the community responding so well to us. Thus it's kind of started a new wave of people feeling that they can be safe to express themselves on this site. I mean, if you found the creator of the most popular CFW is transgender and everyone loves her, it would be safe to assume that being open on this site is safe and not going to result in backlash.

Really in cases like this, it's not really shocking that these blogs are popping up so frequently. It's hard to talk about gender or sexuality when you are afraid of backlash. Then coming to GBATemp and seeing well known members are also transgender and they have coming out stories, yet are still beloved by community. It's safe to assume that more people are going to follow because they feel the Temp community will treat them with the same level of respect.
 
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