How to Stop Being a Tomboy!?

The idea for this entry is the result of PM discussion with @Nikokaro as well as some posts on his profile. Despite I absolutely love the Mother series for the unique style of humor and story telling, Paula is not a fitting avatar for me. She represents too much of the cliché female attributes. As if LittleSinchen would ever run around wearing a pink dress…

I switched to Kumatora. This fictional character has surprisingly many things in common with me. She could be the perfect choice of a more tomboyish avatar. Alas, Niko wasn’t satisfied and chose to present me an aggressively flickering animation tagging me in the profile post linked above. The picture lasted less than a second, until uBlock came to my rescue to save me from going blind and/or insane.

For incomprehensible reasons he advised me to use “Arale” as profile picture… while – at first – refusing to explain that word. I chose to interpret it as plural form of “Aral” petrol stations answering the lack of explanation. Consequently I switched my avatar to the gas pump from Mother 2. But… that thing is ugly.
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Yes, now we have reached the actual topic of this entry:
I thought I might find some nice tomboy avatar by using image search, but this just brought a ton of pictures from the French (2011) movie with the title Tomboy. And it brought this cursed link:
https://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Being-a-Tomboy
How to Stop Being a Tomboy!?
One of the most painful things I’ve ever read! It made me cringe so much! *Crying in agony* Okay, the last one is exaggerated.

Just a few parts with my comments:

Go to a store that specializes in makeup and ask an employee for help.
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I always wanted to pay much money on poisonous substances I can put on my face. Slimy goop on the skin. Dreamy!

Accessorize with bows, ribbons, and headbands.
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Ballast on the head. Dead weight to carry around. Sounds great.

Paint your nails. Stick to light shades, or bright red.
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I have to paint a lot of walls, floors and ceilings already.

Carry a purse or clutch instead of a backpack.
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Where do I put all my stuff then? The laptop surely won’t fit into a purse.


Read women’s magazines. Women’s magazines are usually aimed towards the feminine type. Picking up a magazine is an easy and educational way to learn how to be “girlier.” Reading a women’s magazine will keep you up-to-date on fashion, style tips, relationship advice, and trends.
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Okay, this gets really misogynous! Apparently – at least according to the wikihow author – a female attribute is reading superficial nonsense and gossip. That is offending!

Mind your manners. Behavior such as burping, farting, slouching, and swearing are thought to be masculine traits, although they are generally inappropriate. Having good manners is a positive trait, and it is a feminine quality.
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Now we are going misandry instead of misogyny? Associating “inappropriate traits” with males? Well, farting around in public (or in small rooms like an elevator) is surely inappropriate to say the least. But generally suppressing body functions for prolonged period of time is not a good idea either. I mean: If you have to fart, you have to.
What does this have to do with being a tomboy or not anyway?


Embrace what you don’t know. Unfamiliar experiences can be scary, but instead of fearing them, think of them as learning experiences. You may or may not like what the unknown brings. Either way, remember that you are in control of how you react to what happens to you.
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:creep: Do you know where the high voltage parts inside a CRT TV are? No? Open an old CRT based TV or monitor and just embrace what you don’t know. You will get to know very soon! :creep:
And then you'll stop embracing what you don't know.

Learn to dance. Dancing is a great skill for anyone to learn. It can be a sexy, girly, and sometimes, classy, activity. There are many types of dance that appeal to different personality types and interests. You can learn to ballroom dance, salsa, or even do ballet.
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I tried Dance Dance Revolution once. The whole furniture was wobbling when I jumped around like mad on that dance mat, since the floors/ceilings of the old house aren’t made from reinforced concrete. The main load lies on wood/timber. Jumping around as if I wanted to stomp 1000 tarantulas is not a bright idea (and not very feminine either)

Take up knitting. Knitting is traditionally a feminine activity, though anyone can do it.
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No. Just… no.
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Nikokaro
Well, ultimately everyone is what they are; no use pretending to be different. Every pretense sooner or later collapses under the test of reality. Besides, even a tomboy can be attractive in her own way, and many men like to discover her hidden and intimate, sweet, sensitive and affectionate side, which she reveals only to those who are worthy of it. Perhaps you know Michelle Hunziker, TV showgirl and presenter, very charming despite being a real tomboy, crude and coarse in many of her attitudes.
Anyway, without distorting one's nature, it is always possible to acquire certain movements, certain expressions and attitudes that provoke interest and make one fascinating in the eyes of men. The first and most important step is to love and respect yourself for who you are, without belittling or denigrating yourself, as someone I know often does.🤔
 
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Nikokaro said:
Well, ultimately everyone is what they are; no use pretending to be different. Every pretense sooner or later collapses under the test of reality.
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Well said.
Obviously this blog entry isn't meant to be serious (it is in my nonsense blog).
What I can say in serious manner: That article(?) on Wikihow is beyond stupid.

I've also read the synopsis of the movie mentioned above. Typical French movie, which would probably induce severe anger and sadness (unlikely for the DVD to show up on flea markets, but I'll have a look).

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Anyway, without distorting one's nature, it is always possible to acquire certain movements, certain expressions and attitudes that provoke interest and make one fascinating in the eyes of men.
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You are just assuming anybody to want this. What if a person does not give a d*mn to provoke interest or make oneself fascinating in the eyes of men (or women, or both).
What if somebody just wants to be left alone?
 
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KleinesSinchen said:
What if somebody just wants to be left alone?
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Hmm... being left alone: an admirable, ascetic ideal, but almost impossible for the ordinary person. Impossible(or almost) to be completely alone, given even our nourishment depends on the other. And the man still remains present in the mind, either as a memory, regret or nostalgia, or as an imaginary expectation (fantasies, daydreams) that replace an absent but longed-for reality.
The search for a partner with whom to share sensations, experiences, and emotions is an invincible and indispensable desire. Setting aside sex, but even just staring into each other's eyes with complete trust and abandonment, holding hands, gently caressing each other's faces, embracing each other with passion and vigor: these are all unique and unforgettable experiences, however fleeting, and worth a lifetime.
 
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Nikokaro said:
Hmm... being left alone: an admirable, ascetic ideal, but almost impossible for the ordinary person. Impossible(or almost) to be completely alone, given even our nourishment depends on the other. And the man still remains present in the mind, either as a memory, regret or nostalgia, or as an imaginary expectation (fantasies, daydreams) that replace an absent but longed-for reality.
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Don't take it that literally. Surely there are (forced) brief contacts related to normal living. But that's it. Nothing deep. No friends and surely no partner.


Nikokaro said:
The search for a partner with whom to share sensations, experiences, and emotions is an invincible and indispensable desire. Setting aside sex, but even just staring into each other's eyes with complete trust and abandonment, holding hands, gently caressing each other's faces, embracing each other with passion and vigor: these are all unique and unforgettable experiences, however fleeting, and worth a lifetime.
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🤦‍♀️ No comment🤦‍♀️
 
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KleinesSinchen said:
Embrace what you don’t know. Unfamiliar experiences can be scary, but instead of fearing them, think of them as learning experiences. You may or may not like what the unknown brings. Either way, remember that you are in control of how you react to what happens to you.
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:creep: Do you know where the high voltage parts inside a CRT TV are? No? Open an old CRT based TV or monitor and just embrace what you don’t know. You will get to know very soon!
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Oh I am so stealing this line next time somebody says this to me.
 
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