mthrnite & the dragon

Discussion in 'General Off-Topic Chat' started by mthrnite, Jul 16, 2008.

  1. mthrnite
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    mthrnite So it goes.

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    Greetings 'tempers,
    Some of you may have noticed that I've been very scarce around here for the past little bit. No need to worry (if you're apt to) I'm doing fine, the kids are doing fine, and my ass is still attached. I've just been busy.

    My friends around here know that I've been separated from my wife for well over a year, and our two kids are in my custody full time. I'm living on savings right now, and odd computer jobs, but the money's running low. I have assets that I haven't been exploiting, a rental house that has lain dormant for several months, and items from my late father's estate that need to be sold. Trouble is, I'm a bad combination of nice and lazy. The reason I haven't been making much money on the rental house is that I've been renting it too low and to the wrong people.. friends. In the last case, I rented it to my kids' mom, hoping that she could be closer to our children, physically and emotionally. She had been living out of state, chasing a rainbow (the guy she left me for, don't get me started) and when she got pregnant, my goal was to move her back, help her out, and re-connect her with the kids. That didn't work so well. She moved into my rental house for a bit, then when her baby-daddy changed his mind and wanted her back, she raced back to the rainbow, leaving me in a lurch. I'll spare you the details, but in the end, my honorable intentions were twisted to her ends, and I was left holding the bag.

    To make matters worse, my lazy was getting the best of me. My financial acumen is practically non-existant, and my money was running down the tubes in myriad ways that went largely unnoticed by me. I would use any excuse I could find, including GBAtemp, to put off going through the bills, paying them, and managing my costs.

    I had to do something. Right about the time my wife (we aren't legally divorced yet) had her (boyfriend's) baby, I decided that I'd better get on the ball and push the divorce through, collect as much of what she owed me as I could, and start cleaning up my financial life.

    I had a dragon to slay, and he was bearing down on me fast.

    So, during my absence from GBAtemp, I've been drafting papers with my lawyer for the divorce, custody, and child-support agreements, learning to manage my money and learning to streamline my life so that I can actually see all it's workings in front of me. I've been doing this with the help of several websites and software designed around the concept of GTD (Getting Things Done), a concept designed by a guy named David Allen. GTD is practically a religion for some, and I'm not that deep into it, but I'm learning a lot of practical things in my studies of it. One of the main things I've taken from it so far, is the idea that "too much stuff" can distract you from seeing the big picture, and keep you from collecting and concentrating on the important aspects of your life. I've been very busy paring down. I have an office now, and a filing system, and a shredder. I've thrown so many things away in the last month that didn't need to be in my life that I'm finally starting to get a grip on what's left.. the important stuff.

    Don't take this all to mean that GBAtemp isn't important to me, it is, and you all are, quite important. However, with everything going on in my life I had to make temporary sacrifices, so that in time, I will be better able to focus my attention on the stuff I consider fun, without detracting from what I need to do for myself and my family in the process. That day is coming. Coming soon. The dragon is under my lance, and I'm about to snuff dat suckah.

    In the meantime, I'd like to thank the staff that has taken up my slack while I've been gone. I'd also like to thank Costello, who actually had the foresight to be concerned from the beginning of my tenure here, that I might not focus on my life first, and the 'temp afterwards. He has been wise and understanding, and I appreciate that greatly.

    Also, I just wanted to say hey to my friends, and tell y'all I'd be back soon.

    I'll be back soon.

    I love you,
    mthr
     
  2. Ace Gunman

    Ace Gunman ~••Lucky҉Shot••~

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    Glad to hear you're doing alright, I have no doubt you'll get through it all fine. You are mthr after all. ( 8^D~ Come back to us when everything is hunky-dory in Fairyland 17, beh-bee.
     
  3. Costello

    Costello Headmaster

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    OMFG !
    *reads*

    edit:

    not sure what to say.. but...
    [​IMG] ... I should give you a call sometimes (yeah I can call US landlines and mobiles for free)
     
  4. Westside

    Westside Sogdiana

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    We all miss you very much mthr. [​IMG]
     
  5. Eternal Myst

    Eternal Myst Back from the Myst.

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    Er..Good to hear from you mthr.

    May the force to slay down that dragon be with you.
     
  6. Arm73

    Arm73 GBAtemp Addict

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    That's good news man, I'm glad you 're getting your problems sorted out, we all need to take some life turning decisions soon or later.
    Good luck with the divorce and all, just don't give up on gaming just yet, if you stop for a prolonged time it might be hard to pick up again.......
     
  7. .TakaM

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    Oh jesus christ, I thought you had cancer or something else horrible.

    It's good to hear from you and good to know you're, well, slaying that dragon.
    I look forward to your return [​IMG]
     
  8. science

    science science rules

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    I am glad to hear you have your priorities straight. The last thing anyone on this board would want is for you to lose grip on important real life matters. Good luck with everything you need to accomplish, and don't rush your coming back to the temp. Make sure everything gets done first!
     
  9. lagman

    lagman I wish I was green.

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    Warning: Spoilers inside!
     
  10. Sinkhead

    Sinkhead yay p1ngpong.

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    I hope everything works out! [​IMG]
     
  11. mthrnite
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    mthrnite So it goes.

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    I miss you guys... I'll see you soon!
     
  12. Hadrian

    Hadrian Better than Craigslist

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    Hope everything gets better with you.
     
  13. Sc4rFac3d

    Sc4rFac3d GBAtemp Advanced Maniac

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    Damn man, aren't you taking GBAtemp a bit too serious here?

    Take care and good luck with everything!
     
  14. Toni Plutonij

    Toni Plutonij *has TrolleyDave & tiny p1ngy on moderating shelf!

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    Well, I havenn't been into your life that much, but I see all the problems and stuff you're going trough...It's hard, I can imagine..
    I can just say, best of luck, get things right, and come back for good...[​IMG]

    I hope your kids aren't suffering from all those problems..[​IMG]

    See you around...

    P.S. What's up with the rats, ever got them?
     
  15. CockroachMan

    CockroachMan Scribbling around GBATemp's kitchen.

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    Good to know you're still alive and well mthr! Hope you can solve all your problems, good luck! [​IMG]

    That GTD thing looks interesting, and something that I'm also needing right now, constantly I find myself giving attention to less important stuff.. I'll take a look at it..

    Again.. good luck! We're waiting for your return!
     
  16. Spikey

    Spikey Your Special Someone

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    Yay! Can't wait for your mighty return, mthrnite. I [​IMG] you very much! Though you haven't been entirely gone! I've had my share of fun with you.

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    Hope you finish things up and return to us. I've missed you! (And Mikki too) Join us in that IRC channel when you can and we'll all catch up! [​IMG]
     
  17. m|kk|

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    Hi mthrnite! Thanks for the update; we miss you lots!!

    Take care of yourself!! [​IMG]

    - Mikki [​IMG]
     
  18. Linkiboy

    Linkiboy GBAtemp Testing Area

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    yay mthr! hope everything goes the way you want it!
     
  19. Szyslak

    Szyslak Nudibranch Lover

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    I sincerely hope it all works out for you and your kids mthr.

    Keep us posted on the GTD philosophy. Sounds like something worth looking into for those of us with a very loose grasp on our lives. [​IMG]

    All the best, and we'll be thinking about you.
     
  20. JPH

    JPH Banned

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    No sweats, ol' mthr.
    Take the time you need, but try and hurry up - the website just ain't the same without ya [​IMG]

    BTW, me and Sinkhead have started a new campaign:

    What Would Mthrnite Do? (8^D~


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