Had a thought the other night: I have a relative who's prognosis is REALLY not good at all: just had a stroke, got cancer, possible TB, etc.. so I was thinking (and probably grieving) would it be ok to ask them that when they do pass away, they could muster some "energy" and do something, to prove the existance of the "other side"? You hear stories of people smelling cigar smoke or the perfume they recognise of a loved one, or a message from beyond.....and I just dont get it. I actually know people who are spiritualists and have had (and I quote here) "strangulation experiences" through "contacting spirits"... I just can't believe them. It sounds crazy. I'm a huge sceptic. I uber analyse every "ghost hunting" show I've ever seen and I'm not convinced eitherway. I have always wanted to, but never have experienced anything, but my Dad and Grandad (RIP) both have, and it weirds me out that they both neither believe in ghost/spirits but they both could relate to weird experiences they had and could rationalize only as something they could not explain. I don't believe in religion, or god (but I know my relative does), and I have absolutely no idea about reincarnation or the afterlife ... this is a weird one hey! I thought I'd put it out there and see if anyone can sway me one way or another. I think I just need personal proof, and what better way!? If I did ask, and nothing happened, would that mean there are no such things, or would it conversely mean that she was a good christian and has passed on? ... *sigh* Any thoughts/feelings appreciated!