Is it ok to ask a dying relative to haunt you?

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  1. KiiWii
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    Had a thought the other night:

    I have a relative who's prognosis is REALLY not good at all: just had a stroke, got cancer, possible TB, etc.. so I was thinking (and probably grieving) would it be ok to ask them that when they do pass away, they could muster some "energy" and do something, to prove the existance of the "other side"?

    You hear stories of people smelling cigar smoke or the perfume they recognise of a loved one, or a message from beyond.....and I just dont get it. I actually know people who are spiritualists and have had (and I quote here) "strangulation experiences" through "contacting spirits"... I just can't believe them. It sounds crazy.

    I'm a huge sceptic. I uber analyse every "ghost hunting" show I've ever seen and I'm not convinced eitherway.

    I have always wanted to, but never have experienced anything, but my Dad and Grandad (RIP) both have, and it weirds me out that they both neither believe in ghost/spirits but they both could relate to weird experiences they had and could rationalize only as something they could not explain.

    I don't believe in religion, or god (but I know my relative does), and I have absolutely no idea about reincarnation or the afterlife ... this is a weird one hey!

    I thought I'd put it out there and see if anyone can sway me one way or another. I think I just need personal proof, and what better way!?

    If I did ask, and nothing happened, would that mean there are no such things, or would it conversely mean that she was a good christian and has passed on? ... *sigh*

    Any thoughts/feelings appreciated!
     


  2. prowler

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    If your relative is okay with dying and has comes to terms with it, sure go ask.
     
  3. Ace

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    I agree with this.

    I don't wanna get too personal, but who is this relative to you? Is it someone very close?
    I ask because, well... you may wanna be careful what you wish for.
    I say this from experiences with Ouija boards with my friends.
     
  4. Lacius

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    If your relative has a really good sense of humor (like most of my relatives), it is okay to ask. It might cheer him or her up.

    However, if your motives are just to prove/disprove the existence of ghosts, don't bother. Scientifically speaking anyway, there is not a shred of evidence supporting the existence of ghosts. Believe what you want, but don't expect your relative to actually haunt you.
     
  5. jceggbert5

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    You will most likely hurt their feelings. Plus, it won't do you any good. Ghosts don't* exist.
     
  6. Vulpes Abnocto

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    This completely depends on their sense of humor and/or mischief.
    For instance I have a very good friend who is dying. He swears that if there is some way to let people know he's still around, he'll do it. But then again he likes messing with people's heads.
     
  7. Shinigami357

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    I frankly wouldn't. It's against my personal moral code to ask anything else of a dying person aside from wishing them peace wherever they may end up.

    However, I think such an attempt has been done, though I hadn't looked into it. I think it was Houdini, actually. Let me try to dig it up...


    Link is here. 3rd paragraph.
     
  8. Marlonguppy

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    You will most likely hurt their feelings. Plus, it won't do you any good. Ghosts don't* exist.
    This.
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  9. Jamstruth

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    This is not a good idea. Its something called tact.
     
  10. dickfour

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    If I was dying and someone asked me that I'd tell them to fuck off.
     
  11. Pyrmon

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    I'd tell them I would.
     
  12. koimayeul

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    really not something to ask .. creepy
     
  13. [M]artin

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    Agreed.

    You're just asking to get punched in the mouth, here.
     
  14. Foxi4

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    What's the point? The spirit is supposed to go either up or down, asking for someone's spirit to stay in Limbo is stupid, regardless whether or not someone believes in ghosts or supernatural occourances.
     
  15. Shinigami357

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    Actually, if somebody asked me that, I'd do better. I'd take them with me so they can find out first-hand if they can become a ghost. Hey, I'm just helping, no need to thank me. [​IMG]
     
  16. Marlonguppy

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    I had a laugh there.
    Ghost do not exist, simple as that. Or this world was already blown to hell :')
     
  17. Foxi4

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    Everybody believes what they want to believe. I'm not forcing my beliefs down anyone's throat, no need to shove yours. You don't have proof that ghosts don't exist, neither do I that they do, so it's a spanish mate situation.
     
  18. laurenz

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    Neither did anyone prove that the spaghetti-monster exists. So it's reasonable to belief it exists?
     
  19. Foxi4

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    Faith and Reasonable are not drinking buddies. If you want to believe in a spaghetti moster, you are free to do so.
     
  20. AlanJohn

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    Seriously?
    You want to hurt the feelings of a relative for nothing?
    Ghosts don't exist.