I do not know how to talk to girls......

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  1. kingtut
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    Sorry if this sounds awkward. Especially on the internet where most people do not know me. But I just wanted to say that I really have no idea how to talk with women. and I would like some tips. you see, English is not my first language, although I have learnt it since middle school. I can generally speak well, but when it comes to the more subtle aspects. I really do not know what to say.

    you see all the women I have seen in college respect me, so it is not like I am terrible with women. but I can never find a way to start a conversation without being awkward (like the weather is nice). I am also not a shy person so it is not like I am an introvert. and I also do not want to be using like pickup lines and shit like that. I am a gamer, but I can't assume that a woman is a gamer unless I see her wearing a shirt or something that is gaming related. So I can't automatically start a conversation about gaming.

    I think the problem is generally that I do not completely know what type of jokes to people like to say and I do not understand half of the jokes that are not memes.


    I have figured that since the gbatemp community is very nice, that this is the best place to ask my question without any uncomfortable feelings.

    so I guess my question is, for the ladies in here, or anyone with experience. What do you find awkward? and what do you like? how can I talk to a girl I like and start a relation with her without being awkward.
     


  2. Arecaidian Fox

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    This is going to sound really corny, but the best advice really is to just be you. If you see a girl you know (or one you don't really) engaging in a task/topic/etc. you know a little about or find interesting, try to start a discussion about it and see where things go naturally. Just make sure you aren't doing anything that would seem like prying, like staring at her Facebook feed or something, lol.
     
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  3. DBlaze

    DBlaze I don't know what i'm doing.

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    As for any person you'll ever talk to;
    Everyone has different likes and dislikes.
    What one person finds awkward, the other finds funny.
    What one likes, the other dislikes or doesn't care for.

    Don't go at people with a "gamer" kind of way right away even if they are wearing anything even remotely related to it, just treat them as people. Ask how they're doing, if they've been up to anything lately or whatever, odds are that eventually a conversation starts going and you'll be talking about whatever.

    The main "problem" would be finding a common topic you both would want to talk about when you first start talking to someone, i suppose.
     
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  4. Youkai

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    Well I am probably not really fit to give advices there but the best thing is to not think to much about it !

    It all depends on the situation, like I know that a good way is to ask for directions or for "good places" to go.

    Or if she is listening to Music that you know you could try to talk about the music or if she talks to a friend about something that you have some knowledge of you could try to say something too (even though this is sometimes not a good idea as some people hate that)
     
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  5. Quantumcat

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    Find new hobbies, sports and social groups, then talk about the actual activity you're doing together. I find if someone just starts talking to me out of the blue, it's weird. Better if you have something in common first.
     
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  6. Lilith Valentine

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    Like everyone else, just be you. Find things you both enjoy, be friendly, and just don't be creepy.
     
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  7. Pluupy

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    I always avoid dating fellow gamers in real life because being a gamer is a very diverse interest. A "gamer" is more than just someone who plays games as a hobby. I am a JRPG gamer. So-and-so may be a FPS gamer. etc.

    Gamers also have very strong opinions towards other games. I hate Final Fantasy II. Takumi is the best archer character in Fire Emblem Heroes (fite me). Scholars are still a viable job in Final Fantasy XIV: Stormblood despite the "nerfs" (fite me).

    Hence, I do not want to date a gamer.

    Anyway, I find myself being able to find men I like better by just being myself. If love finds me, hurray. If it doesn't, it's not the end of the world because I will still make friends.
     
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  8. Felek666

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    I also don't know how to talk with girls, just go with the flow.
     
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    yeah I meant to say that as an example of a conversation starter I have known about. I didn't mean it as a way to stereotype gamers. Cause I personally like to talk about games, but a lot of people in real life do not. at least in college. I do not personally look for gamers per se, but rather for people I enjoy talking to. if she is a gamer then great, if not then also great.
     
  10. DeoNaught

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    Over there ;)
    Join the Club :grog:
     
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    i don't either , because i don't understand most of them.
     
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  12. Cyan

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    where are the girls asking how to talk to boys?
    only boys are making blogs..... wait it's not even a blog (yet!)
     
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    Girls just don't care, it's normal for them (I think)
    Hey, only 5% of Temp is a female. (or a trap because they changed their gender to gender fluid, lmao)
     
  14. Hayleia

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    They're too busy with boys trying to talk to them.
     
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    5%? Should be called sausage-temp.
     
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    kingtut GBAtemp Advanced Fan

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    yeah, not to stereotype anyone. but most cases I have seen girls know how to talk to guys mainly because guys come to them first, but it is not the other way around. of course there are exceptions, but that is how I noticed it most of the time

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    lol
     
  17. Eightcoins

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    just become gay so that you have to never ask girls out
     
  18. DeoNaught

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    Over there ;)
    But then he has to talk to guys :/ More of a trade off if you ask me
     
  19. Eightcoins

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    talk or no sex
    thats life
    and also the reason why Ill never get laid
     
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  20. linuxares

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    Then try to find them online, start to know them before going directly to dating. That's how I always done it (not always online). But I always known the person way before we started dating.