How to tell a girl likes you?

[Urza]

Just as long as you keep your mind clear, you can still love AND think and thus, learn.

But thats just the problem, its quite difficult to think clearly while in that state. Infatuation can cause you to do stupid things.

 

[Maktub]

Well, yeah, but according to what's been my experience, people who are hopeless when teenagers, will hardly ever change into anyone thinking any close to clearly or thinking at all. I don't like it that way and I wish people I considered stupid could change into something different, but that's the way it's been for me during all of my life and if there are any exceptions... well, that's it - they're exceptions.

 

[Mewgia]

Yeah I think the first girl you like is always like that. It's more of a 'looking back fondly, nostalgia, warm feeling' than 'insanity, make you go crazy, climbing up the walls, hurts in your stomach feeling'Â

It's not always like that for the first girl you like, at least not for me since I had "crushes" in Kindergarten and looking back she wasn't all that special and neither was my crush in 2nd or 3rd grade. Yes I know that's really young and strange to have crushes then, but it happened to me

 

[reilina]

well what ive conclude base on MY experience is ask yourself 1st;

does she deserve someone like me?
dont use the reason "yes, bec i love her", based it on who u really are.
from top to bottom, your characteristic, even your status in life/school.

if no, then she's better off with someone else better than you.

 

[Linkiboy]

well what ive conclude base on MY experience is ask yourself 1st;

does she deserve someone like me?
dont use the reason "yes, bec i love her", based it on who u really are.
from top to bottom, your characteristic, even your status in life/school.

if no, then she's better off with someone else better than you.

thats kinda low self esteem, first ask youself "is she good enough for me?"

 

[Ace Gunman]

ace: how old are you now?

I'm 19. Why do you ask?

 

[BoneMonkey]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w-ZYvqHEJ6E

that video will tell you everything you need to know

how to dress

body language

how to handle your self in the presence of a women etc

good luck :-)

 

[reilina]

well... i guess ur right, but thats how it works for me.

i realize this when i was 16. i broke up with her and now
she more happy and succesfull in life.

 

[BoneMonkey]

ha ha your emo !

 

[Urza]

ace: how old are you now?


I'm 19. Why do you ask?

You're still pretty young then.

 

[mossy]

Also here is some advice that I got from a girl about girls: do not straight on tell her that you like her. That will creep her out and make an looong awkward moment.

I learned that the hard way :'(

@superrob I agree with the others who are saying just talk to her and be her friend, then ask her out somewhere and let her decide

And BoneMonkey, you suck (apparently)

 

[Ace Gunman]

ace: how old are you now?


I'm 19. Why do you ask?

You're still pretty young then.

Mhm, your point being?

 

[Nitepanic]

It doesn't really matter if she likes you or not. Just ask her out! It's not like you're going to somehow MAKE her love you.

Well, that's my advice.

 

[Renegade_R]

You're 14 now...if you get her as a girl...you're gonna be the gossip of the whole school...noting you're still a young teenager...having everyone gossip about you is all you really want in this endeavor. I remember when I was 14 (almost a decade ago), I went through the same stage...nearly turned me emo...Found a girl I "loved", she gave me signs, I gave her signs...but nothing was able to move through...but I kept going at it...for 4 fucking years. In the end I had a friend but not a close friend...now I don't even speak to her or know her. I feel better I didn't get her in the end. 100% not worth it.

Ask yourself...do you really like this girl...and do you really think both of you can be happy together...if you give her signs and she does not return them...GTFO right away or you'll be a really sad teenager (it happened to me before).

Besides....most teenagers are too immature to understand love...its just the hormones working in you. I can honestly tell you, 5 years later when you're 19, your gonna look back and see what a bimbo that girl is. But if you really want to go through with it, just try your best but don't force it. Start with basic conversation, if she enjoys your company and takes you as a friend, you just finished step 1. When you're ready for step 2, post again here and I'll answer that...one step at a time.

 

[cubin']

Mhm, your point being?

point being you still have plenty of time for finding someone you love. seems like lots of people feel fondly about their first 'love' but trust me you'll meet someone else eventually.

QUOTEBesides....most teenagers are too immature to understand love...its just the hormones working in you. I can honestly tell you, 5 years later when you're 19, your gonna look back and see what a bimbo that girl is. But if you really want to go through with it, just try your best but don't force it. Start with basic conversation, if she enjoys your company and takes you as a friend, you just finished step 1. When you're ready for step 2, post again here and I'll answer that...one step at a time.

I think it's all a part of the learning process. 'Isn't it better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all?' perhaps. but you'll never find out if you don't go for her..you might really regret it later if you don't.


btw reilina is a dumb arse and linkiboy is right. you should be asking yourself if she's good enough for you not the other way around

 

[amptor]

just become friends, see where it leads.. some girls make the first move.. get some stuff done and out of the way before you graduate from high school if you can.. after high school don't fiddle around with women til u get your degree, otherwise you might have to catch up later on in life. remember that you are the most important person here, not the chick.

 

[Ace Gunman]

Mhm, your point being?

point being you still have plenty of time for finding someone you love. seems like lots of people feel fondly about their first 'love' but trust me you'll meet someone else eventually.

Besides....most teenagers are too immature to understand love...its just the hormones working in you. I can honestly tell you, 5 years later when you're 19, your gonna look back and see what a bimbo that girl is. But if you really want to go through with it, just try your best but don't force it. Start with basic conversation, if she enjoys your company and takes you as a friend, you just finished step 1. When you're ready for step 2, post again here and I'll answer that...one step at a time.

I think it's all a part of the learning process. 'Isn't it better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all?' perhaps. but you'll never find out if you don't go for her..you might really regret it later if you don't.

In reply to your reply to my comment, cubin', I'm not much for that whole romance business anymore. I've cared for quite a few women in my lifetime, and I can tell you (and anyone else) right now, that even at 14 I could personally differentiate between the real thing and a crush. I've loved, crushed, and lusted; three very different feelings. But I can safely say at 14 I did know what love is. In fact, I'd be willing to go as far as to say I knew better when I was 14 than I do now. Back then you're going through bodily changes, but you're still hormonally sane enough to tell the difference between mere sexual attraction, loneliness, and the real deal. It's nowadays where I have trouble, because my sex drive tends to overtake my mental facilities.

Back when I was 14 though... it was all so simple. When you're older you have to consider so many things, does she live close enough? Do your values align? Do you want kids/does she? Are you socially compatible? Etc, etc. It wasn't about sex (for the most part), or economics, or romantic politics and BS; it was about about emotion, pure and simple. The emotion was what mattered. We lose site of that as we get older, prioritize a career or a hobby over true love, that's just a waste. If you really truly love someone, you find a way to fit your life into that love, not the other way around. And again, we tend to lose sight of that as we get older.

Personally I'd love to go back to a time when biding for a girls affections was as simple as telling her how you feel. When you're an adult you have to look good, say the right things (even if they're lies, which I hate), have the right amount of money, the right hobbies, the right background, and if you even dare telling a woman how you feel outright? Chances are she'll either laugh at you, pity you, or take out a restraining order. Of course, to the person who started this topic, you don't need to worry about a lot of these more advanced problems yet, you're young, make the most of it. The restrictions I mentioned aren't as present at that age.

 

[modshroom128]

Lately (actually a few months ago) I've been going out with a girl who I didn't know before, and I had no idea she was into me as much as I was into her. I hadn't noticed any interest on her side, but I was very attracted so I just asked her out and it turns out she was in love with me since the first time we metÂ

 So.. you see, girls can be quiet but have feelings nonetheless! Maybe that's a situation you wouldn't face at your age, and anyway I don't know how it works in Denmark!

what a beast.

 

[RiotShooter]

wow this topic has actually gotten very interesting. i guess i can add my own addition and someone can give me advice about it. lol so there is this girl in my band class that i am attracted to but i'm not completely sure if i like her and all. *note i dont even know her at all* the only time i get to see her is during that class which only happens twice a week. i'm not sure how exactly to go up to her and start talking. i dont want to freak her out or anything. we've made occasional eye contact but i really dont think that counts as anything. i really just want to get to know her and then go from there. so ya help please.

 

[DarkAura]

wow this topic has actually gotten very interesting. i guess i can add my own addition and someone can give me advice about it. lol so there is this girl in my band class that i am attracted to but i'm not completely sure if i like her and all. *note i dont even know her at all* the only time i get to see her is during that class which only happens twice a week. i'm not sure how exactly to go up to her and start talking. i dont want to freak her out or anything. we've made occasional eye contact but i really dont think that counts as anything. i really just want to get to know her and then go from there. so ya help please.

Talk to her, dude. Gradually, small talk. Get to know the girl and her friends.

And stalk her.