If we are doing it bullet point style or numbered like a bit above, here's a simple guide to get to know a girl if you want to get her to warm up to you rather than just hit on her...
0) DON'T STARE! Try to keep a calm look, slowly examining her without looking at something other than her face and/or hair/head for too long at all times throughout this! Also, you need to be prepared to think on your feet! Girls that are somewhere alone and not with a squadron of girls are certainly easier to talk to, so each time you move from the starting point throughout the steps, try to subliminal get any other people off the two of you so you can talk more openly and relaxed. Be sure to make subtle compliments on both her appearance (at first) and personality (later on)
1) Approach her and casually introduce yourself without being too pushy or aggressive, but don't say too much at once, take things slowly and give her time to speak without rushing her
2) Make small talk with her and slowly shift it to a bit more personal, like what her interests are and a vague description of herself (this is a "red flag" test to help you decide if you give up or continue) and if she has a boyfriend already (but do this indirectly and possibly with a compliment alongside it, but don't make her cringe)
3) If no red flags are raised maniacally telling you to get the hell out and you want to proceed and you happen to be someplace that's not exactly optimal for this, invite her to walk around a bit or go someplace close to get to know each other a bit (again, don't be aggressive or pushy, stay casual and gentle). If red flags are raised, then politely and calmly continue making conversation without showing that you want out (in case of false flag) and after a while find a way to get out of it without looking left and right anxiously
4) If she agrees, ask her where she would like to go. If she says it's up to you, think back to what info you got so far and decide the best place to take her (be it for a walk or to sit), let her know and judging from the reaction go through with it. If she turns down the offer to go somewhere else and it's not too bad a place to talk, try to continue the talk with her for a bit without bringing the rejection up.
5) Whether you stay or go somewhere, don't stop making conversation, but keep it simple and slow going (take some time to talk, always keeping it short) but interesting as much as you can. If you go someplace where you end up having to get stuff (eg: a drink) offer to pay for her (but keep things reasonable). Once you get to talk for a bit more and you feel like there simple topics are done and some time has passed or if you see her starting to lose interest/get bored a bit, depending on how everything has gone, either ask her if she would like to meet again sometime or if she would like to go someplace else (if there's like an arcade or something it can help a lot when the mood starts getting stale, especially if you get her a teddy or something to help her remember the time together, but only do it if you want to keep going with this), go there, wait until you are done enjoying yourselves and ask her to meet again afterwards.
6) Tell her you had a lot of fun (even if you didn't) and that you would like to see her again soon (even if you don't want to), then exchange info. Leave last names for this part, as they can be an annoyance or turn off. Also, for the love of god, don't go trying to exchange contact info like weird apps (or red flag ones like kik), just full name, your phone number (possibly what times each of you is free so you don't end up inconveniencing her ruining things) and an email just in case (like a normal mature person does).
7) Give it two days, then if she hasn't called you, feel free to call her and ask her if she would like to meet again sometime (but never make dates further than half a week-one week away). If she says ok great. It's best if you get her to go out with you alone, but if she invites to hang out instead with friends, that's not bad either, as you can score a point or two by getting well with her other friends and perhaps check the situation out regarding whether others are after her too. Make sure to get to see her at least once more though after the first time, as there are a lot of variant
PS: You don't have to be a stud to get her to not turn you down completely, but again, don't lick her with your eyes or stare/measure her with a dirty mind. Simply make sure you don't stink and that you don't look hideous, then it's all up to the individual girl's personality.
PPS: These steps WON'T work for 100% of cases and may not work for 50%, but when they work, they work great! Just be prepared to dedicate some time in it...
I didn't say being a female was special,you did. You compared your experience as a female to that of a rich man. I just don't think you realize how condescending the entire post sounds to people that struggle with sexual relationships which to be honest many men do(80% I would say) . I am not going to chew you out for it,but the matter of fact is that you have the privilege to "next" any men that doesn't like you for the right reasons. At Least if people like you for your looks that is still you,do you know how many men go without female contact for multiple decades? Many of the nerds in real life (engineers,programmers,accountants,mathematicians,ect.) are married SOLELY for being providers,actually that has been the stereotypical role for a man since chicken first laid an egg.
Let's be honest. As a female you can be nerdy,fat,promiscuous,ugly,dim,short,unhygienic,vulgar,jobless,poor,shy,ect, and there will ALWAYS be males lining up to save the day,as a man try having one of those qualities and good luck finding someone to even want to be with you with no money involved. I just found your post as either a humble brag,or you being disingenuous over the issue. Western culture is based on this premise,which I am sure anyone that is old enough understands.Western society encourages men to become cogs in the system so they can hopefully one day get a wife(who will in most likeliness cheat or divorce) and star a family. Everything in America is made to squeeze every last drop of life out of you until you die,from the social security pyramid,to the punishing taxes on the upper middle class(engineers,accountants,programmers) . If something is mainstream there is a damn good reason that it is so,and it isn't the fact that humans are enlightened.
Quantum,I know the mainstream media says men have it easy,but the truth is that being a man is fucking hard. Even if you have been with a good amount of girls,there are always periods of intense loneliness/sorrow that one must keep to themselves. Females are allowed to express themselves emotionally and they usually have larger networks of support. I am not saying men have it easier in life worldwide because that is a blatant lie,but you cannot deny that in the western world that women have it much better.
Since I did numbered points above, I'll do it for you too...
1) STOP repeating the same inaccurate survey results over and over like they are fact, they are NOT
2) Quantumkitty's example was just fine and a very good analogy if you simply look at things objectively
3) Just because there will always be guys wanting a woman, it doesn't mean that they will always get one, even if it's an ugly one
4) Stop stereotyping professions, the people who are engineers, accountants, programmers and whatever you listed have both money and get out often, they aren't nerds. The people you think are in those professions are NOT those who are fat, sweaty and living in their mother's basement. As an engineer myself, I've NEVER seen one in the actual profession who's like what you describe.
5) Like you said, it's in America, the US is NOT the entire world, stop treating it more than it is, just another stupid country
6) It's not society encouraging men to try to find a good job and start a family, it's a PERSONAL PREFERENCE. MANY men just care about work, others want work and a family, others want a simple job just to make do and so on, don't lump all men together
7) Men have it harder, who said otherwise? It's true everywhere, be it US, Australia, Europe, Asia, no matter where you are, being a man sucks, unless you are at the very top of the human food chain. Idiots get eaten by the system, smart people climb to the top. Life's as simple as that. Women having it better than men doesn't mean anything when it comes to finding a partner.
8) You said: "Even if you have been with a good amount of girls,there are always periods of intense loneliness/sorrow that one must keep to themselves." Again, you are constantly thinking about temporary fleeting things, not actual relationships. Stop it, get some help, there are more important things in life than sex you know... It doesn't matter how many girls you get, what matters is how soon you will find the good one and get to keep her without anything going wrong, which is impossible if all you care about is getting laid.
Now, can we let this thread die already before someone else posts more false surveys?