Free book: overcoming social anxiety

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  1. Quantumcat
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    No offense to anyone, but seriously, if you need a book to help with social anxiety, you got bigger problems to worry about! Just go out there and try, as many times as it takes, and you will get there on your own. If you fail, it's ok, try again, simple! First rule to not having social anxiety is to stop worrying about what others think, then it's smooth sailing.
     
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    But if you have Asperger syndrome, it would be an entirely different issue.
    Social anxiety in a person can be very light, or severe. The correct approach would be consulting a psychiatrist, and have cognitive behavorial therapy. Either way, if you have social anxiety (or autism) as much as you'd like to, you'll always have certain difficulties. This is why it's important to accept ourselves, because if you have some kind of
    disability on one end, you're bound to have an ability to compensate for it.
     
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    I think that you have a fundamental misunderstanding as to how social anxiety works
     
  5. invaderyoyo

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    "If you have social anxiety, just get rid of it. Done."
     
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    My point flew over your heads it seems. What I was trying to say is that a BOOK won't help, you need to actually have some sort of social interactions (even if sheltered in the form of a psychiatrist) to overcome it. A book will do NOTHING, whether you admit it or not, it's the truth.
     
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    A book with helpful advice tailored to people with your specific mental handicap is going to do a lot more to encourage someone to go out and interact with people at their own pace than just tossing them into a social situation headfirst and saying "be free, this will cure you!"
     
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    You obviously have no clue what you're talking about. Sometimes just a little encouragement goes a long way. Please stop commenting poison like this the internet. Or in general.
     
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    The key to social interactions is simple... Just realize that no one really gives a shit about what you have to say, and most people just want to hear themselves on repeat.
     
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    You should be a psychologist. No really! Your view on this subject goes so deep! Wow!!!!
     
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    I usually go to this website https://www.wikihow.com/
    I type in random questions (Literally) and get some nice information. Even stuff on socialization. :)
     
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    I don't care about what you have to say... I'd like to reiterate what I said already
     
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    What do you think a psychologist gonna do? He just gives some advice, its not a wizard.
     
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    Can a book be that helpful?

    to me, if you can apply what someone tell you to do, I'm almost certain you already knew you could do that. you don't wait until someone tell you about it to do it.
    if you are not willing to do it, the book will not make you do what you can't or don't want to do.

    feel free to replace "book" with "psychoanalyst" or whoever who thinks he knows what's best for you.

    just my own vision.

    edit:
    I don't know what the book is about. talking about the problem, or telling you what you need to do yourself? (edit again: seems it's the former)
    everyone's different, there's no single universal solution you can apply to everyone.
     
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    Looks as if someone just found this off a certain bargain website and reposted it here.

    Also relevent:
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    You sound like a dog giving a cow an advice on how to give milk. As someone already mentioned, you obviously have no clue.

    Once a book turned my life 180°, helping me to almost completely get rid of social anxiety, at a time, where I didn't believe that it can be cured. A book certainly won't make that disease go away just by reading it, but it may show you the right way and open some blind spots you couldn't spot prior to reading it.

    My go-to book is "The Six Pillads of Self-Esteem" by Nathaniel Branden. That book is a mix of a scientific approach to the question what is self-esteem and why it determines every move we make in our daily life, and some practical example of how to break and overcome certain patterns that lead us to the prison cell we're locked in.
    Without that book I probably wouldn't be married to today, have a very well paid job that I like, and have traveled all across the world. Videogames would still be my life instead of a highly passionate hobby.

    You're not wrong about the fact that you actually have to act and leave your comfort zone as often as you can, but it's along way until you actually have the strengh to do that, at least if your social anxiety long since taken control of your life.
     
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    So what you're trying to tell us is to basically overcome something not knowing how? You're being quite ambiguous leading me to believe you probably don't understand or have had an easier experience. If it honestly were that simple many people wouldn't even be glimpsing at this thread, in fact the book at subjection wouldn't even exist lol. You're sort of defying the actual point of the 'illness', people with Social Anxiety literally can't.
    Again, the book is literally advice and helping people overcome it, a book can do a lot of things for example encourage and motivate you, even if it doesn't exactly apply.

    Although I don't agree on the whole "30 Days Or Less" part. It just makes it sound like a guaranteed deal.
     
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    Just because you like to hear yourself on repeat, does not mean everybody else does. Actually, it just makes you an insensitive douchebag with a lack of empathy and compassion. Your mother must be proud.
     
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    Yep I did. Same username there :-)
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    It explains what social anxiety is, symptoms etc. I think if you know what you have you are better equipped to deal with it. You'll know what is part of your mental illness (that you can change if you know what to do) and what is part of your personality and temperament (part of you, that you can't/shouldn't try to change). You might even learn that you don't have social anxiety at all, something milder that isn't a mental illness. That could make you more confident about fixing it (if you wish to).
     
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    That's weird I can see it in your reply. Seems to work on Chrome and Opera but not Edge or Safari.
     
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