Do you ever feel like you try too hard?

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  1. Xanthe
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    Do you ever feel like you try to accomplish so much and you put so much hard work into something, yet it turns out that no one ever notices?

    It feels like I do this to myself every month. I get myself wrapped up into doing something that I think I will love but deep in the back of my head, I know that no one will even come close enough to noticing the hard work I put in.

    I put myself through the torture (without even knowing it) of working on something for hours upon hours only to realize that nobody will care. Examples would be; designing dozens of websites, creating YouTube videos for several years, attempting art for others, etc.

    It's up until now that I've started thinking about this. I do so much for the entertainment of others and I know no one will notice. I always have that thought, yet I continue to do the work. I waste every day of my life trying to do something that I think will make others happy, but it doesn't.

    What do you guys think? I just want to know if I'm not alone
     
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  2. Bingo

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    If I am going to do something that others are going to see, I will push for greatness. But for that to happen, there has to be a demand. In the past I have poured my heart into projects that I personally wanted to do, as a means to express myself, and show my creativity. These projects were things that nobody asked for, and so they went unnoticed. From those mistakes, I've learned that in order to get people's attention, you need to give them what they want.
     
  3. Xanthe
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    That's very true. I feel the same way.
     
  4. joyoshi

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  5. Logan Pockrus

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    I'm quite the opposite, actually; I typically feel like what I work for isn't enough. To piggy-back off your example, I could design dozens of websites or make youtube videos for several years, but I'll feel like I should have polished those websites more, or maybe my subscribers want more frequent uploads. I seem to have this mentality of "more is less, and less isn't good enough" (if that makes sense :P).
     
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    Yep always. This used to give me gigantic stress during the past years, and made myself sick for people who didn't even care about my efforts.

    I then reworked my mind to do the minimal effort required. If it's worth doing more, then I will. Not only this drastically reduced the stress charge, this also helped me to improve myself over various situations, even if I know there is still room for improvement.

    A step forward is better than no progress at all.
     
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  8. MarcusD

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    Ye, almost everything I do.

    Good example: https://gbatemp.net/threads/431125/
    Look at the dates on the responses :cry:
    Because I had to deal with licensing issues, and almost nobody noticed this project anyways, from the frustration I went cellNEIN on the source code, effectively deleting even the Github repo. But nobody cares anyways...
     
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    No offence but you are over reacting. Promizing project just died. Well :(
     
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  10. MarcusD

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    I'm not denying, I may be over-reacting, but since I can program, nobody gives a damn about it, especially not my "family". The only projects that get any attention at all are the TerraInvedit* series.

    It looks like almost nobdy cares about homebrew any longer, unless it involves piracy in any way. But I won't start a rant now, it belongs elsewhere...
     
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    On youtube when I make some good content, nobody notices. Or maybe it was never good content in the first place???

    (twilight zone music)
     
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    Excuse me while I am jealous about it. :glare:
     
  13. Haloman800

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    No, but I often feel like I'm not trying enough (even though many would call me a workaholic)

    I can relate to you, and my advice is, accomplish things to your own personal satisfaction, not for others, and you'll be a lot happier.
     
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    So much this! That was what made me sick of working too hard for nothing!
     
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    Yes i do. I feel like i accomplish what i want in school though.
     
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    I get this a lot. Maybe I'm a perfectionist or maybe I'm just too slow at what I do, I don't know. But I do know that it's difficult for people that don't understand the medium you're working in to appreciate how long a result you can be satisfied with can take to create.

    However, I think it's better to spend your time doing something you're passionate about rather than wasting your time away, even if few people notice.
     
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    I get this feeling all too often.

    Yet I try to keep pushing myself to do said thing. At least it means something to me, who cares what those idiots have to think about it. They're all too wrapped up in themselves to notice.

    Sorry if that was a little cynical.
     
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    Far to often.
    Shit I do for others usually gets taken for granted ;/
     
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    Yep, this situation actually made me sick years ago.
     
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    I think I've grown used to it .-.
    It's a bad thing really.
     
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