Alright...where to begin....well let me just start of by just saying, EVERY and I mean EVERY human is different! Male, female, a little bit of both, it doesn't matter! There...good..did y'all get that? Can we put it behind us now? No? Oh well, guess I gotta explain to y'all thenÂ
Now, you've all heard that before right? And you're probably thinking "Duuuh artard! I know thaaaaat". But if you did know that you wouldn't be asking stupid stuff like "why do girls pee together?!" or
"do gurlz fart?!" ....ofcourse they do! And it prolly smells like poo, we all knew that girls fart too! (damn i should make a song about that)
Anyways back on topic! Now, beeing almost always surrounded by women 24/7 (not trying to brag or anything but i'm the only guy in my class with 31 girls, at home I'm with my mother and my two younger sisters since my dad works late, and I'm the only guy working in the gyms kindergarden), so I kinda got an inside view of how things are. I came to realize that all of them are really different from eachother, and I mean really different! But the thing is, when people are with other people, they are often expected to be in a certain way, this applies to both guys and girls in different situations. Guys trying to be macho/manly, trying to be really athletic, trying to be smart and funny etc. , and girls, talking about i dunno...relationships with other girls, trying to be smart and all knowing, and generally "girlish" (or not girlish if they're non-conformistsÂ
). And yes, I've seen many that totally change their attidude as soon as a guy/guys walk in, same thing applies to guys here aswell, some get all macho while others (this is where a lot of gamers fit in) don't know how to "act" which isn't a bad thing really (but it can make you overthink and overanalyze things in all eternety ).Â
This is one of the reasons why guys and girls for that matter often have a lot of prejudice against eachother and often generalize all the time. Which ofcourse is a BIG NONO!
So simply put, there is no "this is THE way girls work" or "yeah all guys are the same", that's a load of bull! I'm not saying I'm absolutely right, all I'm saying is that there is so much more too it than people think, everything from peer pressure, what parents expect from you, what soceiety expects from you, basically everything you hear, see, experience etc.Â
Oh right, so, as I said, everyone is different so there's no telling how or what or why if we don't know the actuall people involved, circumstances and so on.
QUOTEI second that.
This is how it was/is for me I don't know how old you are or whatever but when I was like 16-18 (im 23 now) I too was very interested in girls and extremely shy and it was all about how to get a girl and what "techniques".
One of my techniques was to walk around and give girls eye contact and see if they liked me.
A Lot of them looked away and some smiled but its usually normal for people to look away and this never
actually got me laid/a date.
I was single up until now probably because of these "techniques" and this kind of thinking that comes with this.
As you know People/girls are not computer games everyone is different. Also people(especially girls) are highly sensitive to what you are thinking and what your motives are for this reason we can only act honest and naturally and not try and be secretive.
IF you have a game plan or you are doing something not spontaneously/unnaturally then girls will sense this straight away I don't think you can learn anything useful from not doing something that just happens naturally.
I think the problem with staring at girls is that its all about trying to see their reaction and learn something because you are scared that you will do the wrong thing if you don't know how they feel .
The most important lesson I learned:
You need to let go of what other people want.
Stop looking for signals. Stop reading body language.
Lose that idea of constantly trying to read peoples minds by looking at them because we cant.
Don't worry if they like you or not thats not the point because they don't actually know you.
Girls like you not because they looked at you from afar and decided from that moment they like you(though often we fall in love with our own false idea of someone based on how they look). They like you/will like you because of how friendly you are to them and how genuinely interested you are in them and how honest you are, they like you because they saw something real.
People are highly sensitive and changeable beings.
They also usually behave honestly when treated honestly and behave fake when treated fake.
People change depending on how you treat them so for this reason don't worry about what they think.
You may feel sometimes they don't like you at first idealy you shouldn't be thinking about what they are feeling about you
don't focus on that or let it enter your mind in any way(it will infect you) you are there to be friendly and kind regardless if you can do that then you will notice that you changed someones opinion of you.
Its a good feeling when you can finally not worry about who likes you but focus on liking people