That is because, before you can pursuit such an abstract and ethereal concept as love, more basic urges get in the way. That is why we must fight those urges, those primal instincts that bar your way to love, for they stand in the way of noble causes. Instinct, therefore, must be expunged. It must be fought tooth and nail, beginning with the basest of human urges: the urge to reproduce. And in order to destroy the urge, we must destroy the source itself. With a gigantic mallet.
Sooo, hammer to the crotch. And a boot to the head, for good measure.