[advice.temp] help migles talk with a girl!

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  1. migles
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    my dad works for nintendo.
    so, i met this girl at driving school, months ago.. i liked her, shes sounds a kind girl
    she gave me her facebook i asked her out, but she is busy with work, but she promises she will tell me once she is available to go some place~~

    the thing is, while waiting i want to chat on fb, i don't know what to talk about, she doesn't like video games, neither movies :C she is really simple girl...
    sometimes i think she doesn't want to talk with me, and i asked her about that, she told me that she is usually very quiet, and doesn't speak much, and to don't take it in the bad way and says that i am a cool guy

    for sometime i had been asked her hundreds of questions about everything to find something in common or something we can speak off. so far she likes cats and pets (we chat about pets sometimes, but it doesn't look comfortable to talk about the same thing everytime)
    and i am done with the question, i already asked her all kinds of stuff and she is nice sometimes she asks too, but i am tired of asking stuff, i am getting to the point asking her stuff turns me annoying...


    i tried to develop some chat like stuff from internet, show her funny pictures, but lots of times it feels like i am driving a car with the E-brake half on..

    i am always nice like, ask how she is, ask about her job... lots of times she is tired of the work and i understand that she doesn't want to talk much...
     


  2. Vulpes Abnocto

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    I nearly made a joke since this is posted in the EoF. But I can tell you're not joking around, so I refrained.
    If I had an answer for you....well....maybe I wouldn't be single myself.
    Hopefully somebody will.
     
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    Only suggestion I have: Take your time.
     
  4. Minox

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    Or maybe consider that there might be someone else for you out there.
     
  5. guitarheroknight

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    Move on, if shes really interested in you shell give you a call or whatnot. Lifes too short, go out, meet new people, enjoy yourself... :gba:
     
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    Do you read books? Maybe see if you have a genre that you both like, that would be an interesting conversation starter
     
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    I'm friends with a chick that's juuuuust like this. She goes all out during work and such and is always busy and tired lol. Then when I back off(cuz I get the vibes guitarheroknight was referring to) she either complains that I stopped texting, or eventually calls/texts(beyond the simple hi, hello bs) herself.

    fricken weird creatures man.

    I assume she is just really shy and legitimately busy, once her load(heh) clears up, she'll start seriously talking. But til then, I would just keep in touch.

    That's my opinion though, and every woman is different, so you gotta feel her out(ya, I just said that) and figure out what she really is like, and play around that. It's all about improv IMHO.
     
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  9. 2Hack

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    that's the equivalent of writing 'this' lol
     
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    it was a post bump lol :lol:
     
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  11. migles
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    yeah i asked about books, she doesn't read, in my country a person that is interested on books is pretty rare. usually is just movies or tv shows

    i think she likes some tv shows, i think she likes "big brother" reality shows, but i can't stand that type of show...
    but i do believe she also likes others like dancing with the stars which i am neutral (neither hate neither like) and can ask about and show interest just to talk with her

    actually i once stopped talking to her on purpose, as in "if she really lilkes to talk with me like she says she does" she will start a convo and talk with me... if she doesn't say a thing i will just go away cuz there is nothing that shows me interest in talking with me"

    for 2 days she didn't say a thing, but then she said hello and asked me if i was angry at her or something..
    she didn't get mad or anything.. so i think she is legitimately a cool girl..
    i had met several girls like that on the past that never take the initiative to start a talk then get mad at us.. this girl is not that type..


    but i will grab the suggestion i will take time, i am just scared it takes too long..

    Vulpes Abnocto
    i was surprised when people took it cool, and not the usual way xD which for me is totally ok, i mean, i asked advice on a forum about games, in a area made for joking, i am aware about the consequences
    gbatemp is the only forum i have an account and post on it xD
     
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    Why do you like her, exactly? You don't have anything in common with her. Do you just want to get in your pants? Because if that's the case, just tell her you'd like to hang out and boom, down the basket.
     
  13. migles
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    not really,
    she is a sweet person.. when i manage to talk with her, she is really nice...
    she is shy.. and the way she talks with me, i really like it..

    the thing is i spent last years "under a basement" and now i am getting outside more and try to socialize with real people. she makes me confortable when i speak with her..
    sometimes i get really nervous to talk with her and she is really cool, she tries to make me feel calm

    i kinda see that she is that kind of girl on the "back seat" minding her own business...
    when i talked with with her, the first time she had a really pretty smile on her face.. and i could see she was kinda nervous xD (just like me..)
     
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    So your argument is "she's nice". k
     
  15. TotalInsanity4

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    Nah, his argument is "she makes me feel comfortable in the scary world we live in". That's a legitimate reason, I'm dating someone who does the same for me (I also have a few more common interests with her than migles seems to, but if he really likes her beyond just finding her attractive, I'm not going to argue with him, particularly if they can find a common interest)

    I suggest you just take some time to get to know each other. Talk to each other about your lives, what you want in the future. Ask what drives the other. Stuff like that.
     
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    there is more than just nice.. i know she got a good heart, (i know very little of her but this is something i am sure)
    to be honest she is not really my type and not that "hot" but i think she is pretty.. i am just interested on the inside...
    thats what i have been doing, i been asking her so many questions about her and everything, to the point i "seen myself on the mirror" and i knew i was being annoying, even if she seemed ok with it..

    but what do you mean what drives the other? i am not familiar with what that means...
     
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    Like, passions. What makes each other "tick"
     
  18. migles
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    do you mean in a sexual way? i don't feel confortable enough to talk about that with a girl D:
    well, on valentines day i spend the day chatting with her on facebook, and tried to ask past relationships but was not successfull, i know she is single.. not sure if she had a relationship on the past.. because, like i told before, she seems that girl on the back that is barely noticed..
    its not that i feel sorry for her, its just that i am\was in the same situation, and i want to make she feel good and that she can got me as a friend that is here for everything she needs (yeah i told her several times if she needs something i am here, so far she never asked anything xD)
     
  19. TotalInsanity4

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    NONONO! I meant like what hobbies/pastimes/activities/jobs/anything she has a deep interest in. Like what she likes above all else
     
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    It's funny I read through the topic and I realize the relation with my GF started this way :3

    Like I said, take ypur time.
     
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