I cannot help but feel, that everything about the public reaction in this case is entirely wrong and largely problematic.
First off. If you are in an abusive relationship. Leave. Seriously. Even if psychologically hard (because the other part might do all the thinking for you, and that actually develops dependance (even if you might feel cared for at first)). Seriously leave.
What are you waiting for? That you get children, and now have more reasons to stay?
If - as in this case, of a publicly drawn out relationship battle, you get dumped, and then complain - that your previous partner never accepted your pleas not to be touched and taken advantage of - every day - after work - thats a serious case of "oh - they abused me so hard, I got really mad, when they left me". In that case - most of the blame has to be directed at you - not the abusive partner, because only that way you get people to realize, that yes, you should - and you have to end abusive relationships on your own - if you get abused.
The other part of the story where this becomes 'person almost raped me, when I was drunk, only my friends prevented it'. Two answers. Don't get so drunk where this would ever become seriously an issue. At least not without friends around, that could do something about it. Thats just life advice. In this case it sufficiently paints the other person as an amoral predator, which absolutely seems to be correct in this case - but then again, this solves nothing - if you don't get together in groups of 20 and then start to recollect tales of woes and abuse directed at one person - in a public forum.
Which brings me to - "getting together and recollecting tales of woes and abuse about one person in a public forum" - are you kidding? Whats your goal here? Do you want to destroy that person?
Are you mad?
Its entirely sufficient if you get together, and tell those stories, very matter of factly - if it was non actionable emotional abuse. Starting to get all of your friends together, and in very personal anecdotes recount tales of woe with that person - on a public platform like twitter, only means, that you got your friends together, and now are out to publicly destroy that person.
And we are not talking about loss of job only - we are talking about f*cking destroying a person. This is not a case of where a person is dodging legal harm, by not being able to be endicted for sexual harassment charges, no, this is a case - where you and a few friends are out there, never planning on handing this over as a matter of law - but only to f*cking destroying a person.
Here is how that logic goes. "But he did so with us as well --" NOT, a sufficient excuse.
And for every person on every one of those four pages, getting off on this - you have so much to learn in your life, and I think you are wrong for dragging this out anywhere - beyond where it belongs - which is a friends circle.
As far as I can tell, that person did not abuse a position of 'power' or reknown - related to their job, so why is now everyone cheering about a public denounciation campaign, that lost that person their job, and was written out of work they already had done. Because you now see that as a justified reaction because of the meetoo movement?
Which was all about structural abuse of power, from public powerful figures? Which warrented public callouts. Arguably. Did you miss that part?
Do you think that its now fine to do that with every joe shmoe, that acts like an asshole?
I'm asking, because I read over three of his "appologies", and they struck me as coming from a human being that had given up - I mean, he felt the need to f*cking denounce his behavior in every sense. Not having been a good friend, not having been attentitive - its a f*cking list of a person repenting, being human.
Because - apparently his friendcircle felt the need to destroy them in public.
And at that point, regardless what that person has done (or rather hasn't - because nothing with legal ramifications), whats f*cking wrong with that friend circle?
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Honestly - if that was any other public company - besides Nintendo, who work on their own set of 'moral believes', where acting like children in public, celebrating with their employees in "tree house clubs" you invite the public to visit - is a 'wonderfully normal thing' - and not at all weird behavior -
the correct reaction to this one would have been to disregard it as a public matter entirely.
And that this is now possible to be 'actionable' because of twitter conversations - and thanks to also gbatemp (and other news outlets) can now be used to destroy that person for life (just google his name in 10 years), is kind of more of an issue, than a moral virtue.
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