thanks for the help but the main problem was not being able to the screen that enables usb mode.it would just not show up.after many tries in fixing it i had given up on it thinking its a defect.i tried once more to fix it.i loaded the fire card and the screen where it shows usb mode FINALLY...
usually when you start the fire card you would see a 2 options. usb mode and menu except it doesnt show that and it skips to the ds organizer screen but shows nothing. i tried a quick reformat. still doesnt work. i ended up doing a full reformat and lost the xmenu.dat file.bah. manually enabling...