1. Sono
    Sono
    It's okay to feel inferior in some areas as long as you're aware of it, and you can accept that (although not much should stop you from getting better than them).

    If the feeling of inferiorness comes from self-belittling, then please stop, because it's unhealthy. You're doing bad comparisons, which leads to depression, and other serious illnesses.
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  2. Sono
    Sono
    Either find a better comparison candidate (as in, don't compare yourself to world's #1, which is hard-to-impossible to achieve), or stop comparing yourself. Everyone is unique, and that includes being good or bad in things.

    Also, try doing teamwork. Try to do something where each of you is good in something and not good in the other's thing. That'll guarantee you'll not only feel superior, but also important.
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  3. Flofflewoffle
    Flofflewoffle
    well that's exactly what I am doing, and it feels like there is no stopping it now, its just getting worse and worse *at the moment*
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  4. Flofflewoffle
    Flofflewoffle
    how is "stop comparing" possible ;w; its an automatic thing at this point
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  5. Sono
    Sono
    This will sound harsh (I'm harsh), but if you're comparing yourself then that means you're (thinking you're) trying to make something not unique. Once you're (thinking you're) doing something unique, the comparisons should vanish.
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  6. Flofflewoffle
    Flofflewoffle
    well it isn't unique x3
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  7. Sono
    Sono
    Yeah, in that case I'm out of wisdom, as I'm guilty of this.
    Although I do the opposite; instead of sobbing, I'm over-perfective, and waste a lot of time trying to perfect things >.<
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  8. Flofflewoffle
    Flofflewoffle
    but they are never good enough ;w; at least when you never feel it inside and always depend on the approval of others
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  9. Sono
    Sono
    Aha!

    That's classic "I'm making something so I can get praise and feel better in this miserable life".
    I'm not saying it's easy to keep yourself to this (and it isn't, even I'm having difficulties with it sometimes), but you need to make the stuff you make for yourself, not for others. You must make YOURSELF happy with it first.
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  10. Sono
    Sono
    I don't even know where I learned this life pro-tip. But since I know consciously that what I make must make myself first happy before anyone else, I'm slightly more motivated to work on stuff. Give it a try. But be aware, that if it's your first time knowing this, it'll be really difficult.
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  11. Sono
    Sono
    Ah, just remembered:
    I don't really know how and why this works, but here is *my* understanding, from experience: you make yourself really happy and proud, and then think about that if it makes yourself *this* happy, how happy could you make your current and future fans?

    But this is just my view. The reason this life tip takes a long time to work the first time is because you need to realize this meaning.
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  12. Flofflewoffle
    Flofflewoffle
    that is the problem you are talking about ;w; I used to be able to satisfy myself without really even needing to show anything to anyone and I was just happy with what I was doing, but it just crept and crept and crept more towards pleasing others as the goal and now its impossible and I need others approval all the time x'3
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  13. Flofflewoffle
    Flofflewoffle
    its like when you start to participate in something like youtube, having something impressive to show suddenly becomes the main goal, views, likes and what not, and it has just kinda hollowed out what I feel inside . . .
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  14. Sono
    Sono
    Yeah, I know that it sucks that you can't reach as wide audience as you want.

    I managed to mostly accept that not everything I make is successful. Although there are *some* heart-crushing things which turned out to be the complete opposite, but sometimes someone's trash will be other's gold - years, or a fucking decade - later.
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  15. Sono
    Sono
    Also one of the reasons youtube rounds off stat numbers is for mental health reasons. You should strive for a good fanbase, not maximizing numbers. This is not cookie clicker :P
    Edit: fanbase quality matters more than size, although both can be important

    I know this is a "why are you booing me? I'm right!" thing, but it's something you'll have to accept.
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  16. Flofflewoffle
    Flofflewoffle
    the only reason why I even care about a large audience, is if you don't have lots of people to back you up, anyone can disprove your work as being worthless x3 that's why I feel I need the numbers to prove otherwise ;w;
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  17. Sono
    Sono
    Bloody 420 character limit. I wrote several paragraphs into this small box >.<
    Well get ready for spam I guess, as I'll have to break down points into multiple posts...
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  18. Sono
    Sono
    I have a few counterarguments against that statement:
    - views and subscriber counts are just numbers... not all of your subscribers will watch/care, and not all watchers who care will be subscribers. [
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  19. Sono
    Sono
    ] this causes a discrepency, which means that the view count and subscriber count are just "peasant blindness" (as we call it in Hungarian). this is why nowdays youtube performance is measured in "engagement" instead of just numbers
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  20. Sono
    Sono
    - fanbase reactions can be grouped into 4 categories: positive (much like), negative (much dislike), neutral (nobody cares too much), and split (there is a noticable grouping of much like and much dislike groups). [
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  21. Sono
    Sono
    ] assuming that your fanbase has a size bigger than two, you should always be able to feel which group your works belong into. although "neutral" is the worst one, as it's the hardest to differentiate from noise, as "neutral" comes from lack of data. [
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  22. Sono
    Sono
    ] that doesn't mean your thing is bad, it just means that either nobody cares (in which case they can suck dick), or it's something that the fanbase already knows you can do (in which case they probably like it, just not enough to make big voice about it, so it turns into data noise)
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  23. Sono
    Sono
    I missed a point: this (the above blob of text) is also why you can see that the "quality" of the fanbase is more important than the quantity: you can have 1mil fans if they are all stupid and just meme around without "judging" your work.

    Edit: the correct wording is "you can have 1mil fans if they are here only for the memes, not the (quality of) work"
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  24. Flofflewoffle
    Flofflewoffle
    Thanks for your insight :3 I guess you are right :3 I needed this explanation :3
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  25. Sono
    Sono
    Realizing my slight mistake, do yourself a favor, and do a "homework" where you make sure that what I said is also agreed by people whose opinions you trust. Just to make sure what I said could not cause more harm.

    Edit: only ask *some* people, you don't need all, and probably even shouldn't, for your own sanity. Only some, like 2-5, or max 6.
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  26. Flofflewoffle
    Flofflewoffle
    I think other people have told me the same thing too all along ;w; just not so thorougly ;w;
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  27. Flofflewoffle
    Flofflewoffle
    I remember vin said "I just try to improve and have fun with what I do" ;w;
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  28. Sono
    Sono
    Yeah, I usually write very dry and offensive walls of text, so I'm happy you managed to look past my difficult-to-read dry insult-worthy text to see my point.
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  29. Flofflewoffle
    Flofflewoffle
    I didn't find it insult worthy awww! and I think an explanation that is not grounded in emotions is exactly what I needed to hear ;w;
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  31. VinsCool
    VinsCool
    I agree with all of the above
    Jan 24, 2021
  32. Flofflewoffle
    Flofflewoffle
    you have always tried to tell me my friend :3 but I don't listen ;w;
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    Jan 24, 2021