I strongly suspect my father is narcissistic. What personal advice do you have, web pages and books to read and so on?
Quite off topic, but you're not a bastard, nor cold.Personally I try not to deal with such people at the level of familial relationship. The best armour is not to be there when the attack it made and all that. In business then the self serving nature of such people means you will encounter them, sometimes they are good at what they do and sometimes they are an example of politics or the peter principle (everybody rises to the level of their incompetence).
Depending upon your age, income, family status (will cutting them out necessarily cut out others* you would rather be in contact with sort of thing) and more that may be harder to pull off.
*not necessarily because they forbid it but others are in their orbit and dislike you pulling away. Throwing around the word cult is a bit premature at this point but there is a reason most such things are headed by such.
It also depends upon you yourself. What skills you have, what your mindset it like.
For instance I am a cold and clinical bastard that has never felt lonely, and is happy to analyse every single move at all points with an almost perfect memory for conversations and interpersonal interactions. Quite easy then to figure out if someone is self serving to the degree of some kind of clinical narcissism and then whether their actions and responses work for my cost-benefit, even if they either collapse it to their benefit or run away when the going gets tough leaving me to shoulder burdens they should have had.
You may however not have such perks (or be able to gain them -- people think in different ways and trying to change your thinking radically is dubious at best), and even if you did your cost-benefit risk analysis will necessarily be different ($500 might be a cost of doing business for me, crippling for you to lose).
That said if you seek validation through them then don't. If you get it then it will likely still be self serving, if not meaningless, so eh.
Do be sure it is actually the case as well; children rebel against their parents, I would say it is actually an essential aspect of growing up. Leading by example, reinforcing social standing when you do something to damage it... such things can appear as narcissism to those not necessarily familiar with it.
I would maintain what I said is correct. Empathy lacking in almost all cases and what is there is usually more of an emulation. Bastard tends to follow from that as well. More than adequately describes me.Quite off topic, but you're not a bastard, nor cold.
You're just introvert, which means that you don't require lots to be happy/feel accomplished, which is why is almost impossible for you to serk out the appreciation of others.
I have in my mind two certain staff members, one if the is Narcissist, and the other is Egocentric.
At OP: What Fast is saying, is that it might as well be a problem comming from your own growing up nature. It is why I suggested you're not sleeping well. People tends to be a bit neurotic with the lack of proper rest.
Is bastard a psychological term?Bastard tends to follow from that as well.
I wish I didn'tHard to say,but.....in the first Place - Be lucky and grateful,you HAVE a Father.
You just made this about you so maybe you're a narcissist? J/KMy family bloodline is full of people like this and they tend to bring out the worst in me, so I've decided to ignore and block them. Of course, in real life you can't block people (and that's ultimately a good thing) so I just spend as little time with them, or none as possible.
I have three sisters and right now I only talk to one of them, that's how bad it is. The less I see/talk to them, the better. It also affects my health 'cause I'm usually in a good mood though when I come in contact with them depression kind of kicks in.
The TruthYou deal with a narcissist by leaving them. Anything else is pointless, ineffective and a exercise in futility.
Realize the truth now or later because it will eventually become self evident.