Thats only if you want to tackle the problem "morally" then you might ask yourself "can I really 'feel' like the women in that situation", and then might want to withdraw from inserting you opinion into a discussion.
But then to tackle the problem morally is about the worst thing you an do. One simple truth is, that there is no "debate". Even if everyone thinks, that they have to inject their opinion.
Because even if you look at this pragmatically - you end up at the point where you can objectively say abortion needs to be allowed (in some form), to reduce objective pain and suffering.
Its also a good example for why law isn't supposed to be moral, or emotional. In my country for example, we currently have a populist government, that has just hiked up sentences for all kinds of crimes, that people find morally appaling. As soon as they did, you have legal pundits coming forth to tell them, that what they are doing is wrong, because there will be no further effect of deterrence, and the only thing they are doing is to increase suffering, to satisfy the sadistic 'needs' of the general public.
There is a similar argument to be made in this case. You look at the 'bad' situations unwanted pregnancies can produce. People having psychological breakdowns over not wanting to birth a child for differing reasons. People dissociating from their child, because they simply are unable give them the emotional care that society is nudging them to give. (Leads to neglect.) People willing to resort to serious self harm to end the situation and you decide - regardless of what civil society thinks, that you have to give people recourse in those cases - or you are actively inducing really bad situations.
Then you also look at the wellbeing of the child, and come up with a compromise. A compromise is, when neither side is absolutely correct, and we still have to somehow deal with that.
You will arrive at this conclusion logically. On humanistic grounds. (Which is also a kind of moral structure, but at least not a popular one..
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Another lesson to be learned from this is that "mass believes" are a horrible judge of anything really.
Thats why even with democracy we've ended up with "representative democracy". Meaning - the people supposed to judge issues are the ones who understand the respective issues. And you are not supposed to have any direct influence on it. You can basically only vote for "change" or "four more years". (At least in the american system..
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Thats the theory. You can call that elitist. But then others can call catering to your needs populistic. (Which is always much easier to satisfy, because you give them a bouncy ball, and they are entertained for hours, until the next story comes along. Thats part of human nature.)
But then you have instances like late term abortions in the case of your child having a gene defect, and being born disabled. Which almost cant be explained in objective terms. (Inalienable rights, equal in front of the law...) So either you accept, that the potential 'suffering' this event is causing in the parents lives is so much higher, than in any other case - or you are inclined to see it as a corrective measure, where you acknowledge, that society at some level inherently doesnt want to care for people that are out of the norm. So this decision almost looks "more political" compared to the question "if abortions should be allowed on some level".
The answer to the second one is always yes. If you are not a religious hardliner. And those are the people that have to be "right" morally, because otherwise it destroys their sense of self. Those are the people you always smile and nod at, and then never do what they actually ask. Preferably. For the good of the many.