Well, I'm single now and dunno what to do.

I've been with my ex gf for almost 4 years and it started off rocky but I pushed through it and it got much better, she moved in with me and had a daughter who wasn't even a year old.

I've raised that kid as my own and even tough she has autism it didn't change anything but my gf has a very angry personality and no patience which led her to growling her kid for no good reason alot of the time. For this reason I stuck around so I could make sure the kid was ok .

Now the kid just turned 4 and it's breaking my heart that I won't see her anymore but I think it's for the best that she will eventually forget me.

A month and a half ago I moved back to my mom's for financial reasons as she had quit her job and I couldn't keep up with the bills. This is when it started getting awkward.

The past few weeks that led up to this breakup was strange We didn't talk at all and when I made the effort it didn't go anywhere. (10 second phone calls)

So this morning after I had enough courage to break up with her after feeling sick of the thought of not seeing her daughter anymore got worst. So I was on my way to get place and she wasn't home... Decided if well I'll just go to work. On my way to work I saw her walking home so I drove up by her to talk to get and or of nowhere she broke up with me... So it was a mutual agreement at the end and I was expecting alot of anger.

After work today I need to pickup my belongings and u dunno how that will go I just have to finish my shift and try not to get emotional.
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Ah man I don't know what to say that can help you. I'm sorry things didn't work out with you but I know you love that poor kid...
I wish you could work out something with your ex to see the kid but alas I'm sure you've already did everything you can, so all I can say is good luck.
Also maybe you will get to see the girl again someday, I have a hard time thinking she will forget you completely :)
 
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Hold on a friggin minute. Do you really think this guy is a douchebag like that? He actually has love in his heart for people other than himself and really this is ridiculous, you guys aren't helping any with this crap. It's not the EOF.
 
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Sounds like you'll need to get yourself a 'fleshlight'. Also sounds like it was the best thing to do - no point living your life in misery dude. The worlds population is about 7.7 billion people & half of them are the opposite sex - so the odds are in your favour you'll meet a new woman soon and live a happier life (then your ex will probably get bitter because you're with someone else).

Moral of the story - in general, women are batshit mental!
 
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I'm not much of a drinker and I'm sure there's better places to spend my money than toys and prostitutes.
 
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It´s alright to be emotional. This shows you care.
 
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That's a lot of tough stuff at once, sorry for you, but hopefully you'll both become better people for it. Atleast you'll have some more free time to figure out what you want to do
 
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Think she found someone else she would rather be with from how you are describing your interactions with her, probably nothing you could do about it, once a womans mind is made up about this kind of thing you have no chance :/ Anyway. Sub to classic wow whether you are interested or not, immerse yourself in it and you might come out of the other side happy and with a woman who is good for you :) Don't go looking or force anything, if it happens it happens.
 
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Your value doesn't come from being in a relationship... Take some time for yourself (Hit the gym, Pick up a hobby, Meet new people, go to parties and such). When you feel that you are ready to get into another relationship go for it. In regards to her daughter, you should definitely explain to her that you care for her daughter very much and even offer to watch her occasionally (That's if you really want to continue that relationship). But don't feel pressured into caring for someone's child out of guilt.
 
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Seriously? You're better off alone. Sure, the kid will have the short end of the stick, but not really by your doing. Having a family is a wonderful thing, having a loving family is way beyond that. if you didn't have it, why push through?

Live happily in the solace that is having prevented a time of abuse, either mentally or verbal.

To do now?

Be with yourself. Have a walk, read a book (I miss that...), take a long dump. Do charity work. Go back to school.

Only you can know the answer to that question, my friend. The world is just waiting and you will not get a good answer out of some random people on the internet.
 
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Its better this way. I would not have dealt with that situation for as long as you did. I for one wont help raise another's kid that has anger issues or drug issues or what ever issues. I know you care for the kid, but its not yours and she made that discussion for you. She will get another smuck to raise her kid for her.
 
finding someone to connect with is the hard part. and it gets much harder as you get older.... You have to deal with baby daddy/momma drama and kids in general.
 
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You did well dude really bloody well I take my hat off to you SIR. And any one else says other who is, going to end up messed up????The child and he will get the blame.. they know no different and will think its them long term if they argue alot, and in law the male has no ground.been done t shirt . you tried but i will say the disability is generic and if the mum wont get help. Then her past or something darker lurks. Get help she needs to seek or get her ass to a good mediumship church..spiritualist. People can judge all they like and regardless of religion the right person will give answers.I was told certain things and glad i was..one instance saved my life in a pile up!!!!But bottom line meet on mutual ground discuss it like adults. She may end up with social services involved and that is not good to a point.

Have a chat lay your cards down do not tear you head up over it.You will possibly need to take this as a learning curve and many admire us ones that try to make shit work.....I cant have kids dude its called i do not wish to pass my problems on and instead i am trying to do something to help others by making an implant to correct what not current surgery can.IT Takes BALLS and not all step dads are wankers we just meet who we meet. I know a guy who,s x was a totally head fuck...now he has the Girl and i admire that guy totally as the kid is now with her DAD who loves her to bits and she wont ever be worried no kin way.She will be looked after. Point is if its meant to be it wont pass by, if it does it will return. And most of all many guys would of ran a fkin mile. YOU DID WHAT you felt was right and not end up messing the child's head up.May be she needs to learn how much you did maybe try being separate, kind of start proper dating again. I will say its a full time job and not easy but she needs to learn that. May be try weekends if its that painful go from there. 4 years and 7 are the worst...Phone up your mates go for a few beers may be try and obtain a little social life not Chasing tottie just not being in the four walls all the time. On the other side of it you never know she may wake up and think oh fuck what have a done!!!!
 
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