So I've screwed my relationship..

So, my girlfriend has recently started ASSUMING that I've fallen for my best friend. This has lead her to totally change how she talks to me, acts around me, and I believe she may have even changed her feelings for me because she's worried I'm going to break up with her for the other girl. We've been dating for 6 months, and up until now everything has been perfect. Tomorrow I'm hanging out with her, and I plan on discussing this entirely and working it all out. I'm expecting her to break up with me, however I'm hoping she doesn't.

I am quite close to the other girl. After all, she is my best friend. However, I've been very careful for the past 6 months making sure I don't overstep any boundaries with this other girl, because this is the *exact* situation I've been worried about. I don't even send smiley faces to her on facebook because I don't want to send the slightest hint of the wrong idea. My girlfriend on the other hand has a guy best friend (which is normal and I'm okay with that), who she flirts with on a regular basis, and has posted things on his Facebook wall with hearts the the end. I personally find that somewhat hypocritical, because she also asks him for hugs everytime we hang out with him, where I don't even allow my best friend to hug me.

So tomorrow, when we "work this out", it'll either make it or break it, but she has stopped making an effort to keep a conversation on Facebook going, so I am definitely somewhat worried about how this will turn out tomorrow.

EDIT: For the record, I do not have feelings for my best friend.

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Burton
[quote name='AP Hacker' post='3776940' date='Jul 16 2011, 03:01 PM']Well, I've found out a little more about how my girlfriend looks at my best friend and I. She thinks I trust my best friend more than her, and she also feels that "if I lost my best friend, it would hurt more than losing her". Also, while talking to her last night, she was making minimal effort to keep the conversation alive, and her responses were minimal as well, so I asked if everything was alright. She said "haha, that question is becoming really overused" and I replied "I know, unfortunate isn't it?".
Then she apologized because she had to go, and told me she knew she had some explaining to do.

Meanwhile, my bestfriend feels horrible because she feels this breakup coming as well, and she feels completely responsible and doesn't want to talk to me anymore.. Looks like I might lose her too.

In a couple of hours, this entire situation will be dealt with, one way or another. Wish me luck guys![/quote]
aWWW she's jealous! So cute. Juvenile love is the best.
You have to be honest to her and tell her you want to be with both of them happily ever after. :wub:
 
A
[quote name='Zetta_x' post='3777168' date='Jul 16 2011, 01:21 PM']Words are the worse way to work things out; words are nothing but to enfeeble someone else in a false illusion and capture only a small amount of what really goes on in your mind.

The best way to work anything out, is figure out what the problem is and fix it. In 6 months, you should have analyzed your girlfriend enough to know how her mind works and well enough to know how to fix it without words.[/quote]

Yeah, but I want to hear from her EXACTLY what the problem is. Then yes, I will sort this shit out xD


I'm actually late to go meet her right now.. Not the best way to start things off, but here I go!
 
A
I'm home now, and it went faaar better than I ever could have expected. Apparently my sources and information got confused. My girlfriend *never* assumed I liked the other girl, or that she liked me. Thats straight from her, and I could tell that it was the truth. Also, we talked about the whole trust issue and worked it all out. Everything is entirely back to normal, we are even going to start ignoring a mutual friend of ours who seems to be trying to break us up.

We even kissed goodbye. Life is good!
 
sonknuck23
This thread makes me want to man up and tell my girlfriend to stop acting like a psycho all the time. WOOSH.

Glad to hear your shit worked out, brother. :)
 
Sicklyboy
Similar thing between me and my ex, to make a very long winded story short, I wasn't making her happy (get your mind out of the gutter!) and she was blowing shit out of proportion, and when I tried to fix things she turned it around in my face.

Dated that girl for 2 months shy of two years. A month later, as of yesterday I'm with a new girl, went on a date with her last night that was HELLA more fun than any date I ever went on with my ex. Life is good my friend =)

Great to hear everything worked out though.

And if anything does go the southest of south, remember what I kept telling myself. Crying and being depressed aint gonna change anything. Man up and move on, there's bigger, more important things to worry about than a girl you're not gonna get back.
 
A
[quote name='plasma dragon007' post='3777848' date='Jul 16 2011, 11:18 PM']And if anything does go the southest of south, remember what I kept telling myself. Crying and being depressed aint gonna change anything. Man up and move on, there's bigger, more important things to worry about than a girl you're not gonna get back.[/quote]

Exactly what I tell myself when shit like this happens. Here's how I look at it.


If I don't want the relationship to end, and she doesn't either, it won't.
If she does want this to be it, then I had no right to stop her, and of I care enough, I'd let her go because it made her happy.

But thankfully today did not end like that.

Also, thank you everybody for the helpful comments, it was nice getting a fresh perspective on this. Feel free to continue posting "horror stories" from your own relationshits ;)
 
Burton
[quote name='AP Hacker' post='3777854' date='Jul 17 2011, 04:29 AM'][quote name='plasma dragon007' post='3777848' date='Jul 16 2011, 11:18 PM']And if anything does go the southest of south, remember what I kept telling myself. Crying and being depressed aint gonna change anything. Man up and move on, there's bigger, more important things to worry about than a girl you're not gonna get back.[/quote]

Exactly what I tell myself when shit like this happens. Here's how I look at it.


If I don't want the relationship to end, and she doesn't either, it won't.
If she does want this to be it, then I had no right to stop her, and of I care enough, I'd let her go because it made her happy.

But thankfully today did not end like that.

Also, thank you everybody for the helpful comments, it was nice getting a fresh perspective on this. Feel free to continue posting "horror stories" from your own relationshits ;)
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Get her pregnant, make her yours forever LOL. Nah I only remember bad stuff from the past. The best thing happening to me right now is my girl and my baby.
 
A
[quote name='Burton' post='3777871' date='Jul 16 2011, 11:50 PM']Get her pregnant, make her yours forever LOL. Nah I only remember bad stuff from the past. The best thing happening to me right now is my girl and my baby.[/quote]

Haha, I'd have 50 people after me if I got her pregnant..
But congratulations on the baby!
 
Justin121994
Well anyways good luck bro. I stopped looking for girls. :l. There's one I like, but I feel as if I should focus more on school stuff. Back when I was with my ex I got poor grades and nowadays it's like any grade under an A is bad.
 

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