Sick of my mum!

She could just smoke outside?

[quote name='pyrmon24' post='3384170' date='Jan 12 2011, 12:00 AM']She could just smoke outside?[/quote]
The thing is, she does...but even with all the windows and doors shut, it still gets in the house plus the smell is on her, 2 arm lengths away and you can still smell it.

That's pretty minor in comparison to my mother. She got so drunk when I was taking my A-Level exams that I got no sleep at all and passed out in my biology exam. Failed it, naturally. Cunts wouldn't even let me take a resit. Apparantly being unconscious for the exam was a failing on my part.

And then to make things worse she got blasted again and spent the night walking around in a storm, pissed off her face, trying to dive in front of traffic because having shown up at her boyfriend's house at 2AM and him answering the door in a dressing gown, that's apparantly cause to believe he's unfaithful. 'Cause that makes so much sense on paper...So yeah, I had to go along to try and stop her from killing herself, an action which cost me my health and most of my sanity.

So be thankful she's only smoking, get over it, let her relax in whatever way helps her, and appreciate what you have.

Tell her that if she keeps smoking she'll have lung cancer.
Or her blood vessels's inner walls will become so weak she'll get an aneurysm.
And tell her that when either/both of those happen you won't be there to help her because she will be a victim of her own stupidity.

It's a shame your Mum isn't taking your feelings and worry over this seriously.

I also despise smoking, there ARE other ways to deal with stress, healthier ways, but once a smoker - stays a smoker (most of the time).

So many smokers don't take smoking seriously, but they really should, it can cause more complications than cancer - bad blood circulation which can lead to a collapsed artery which then leads to needing a heart bypass to fix the problem.

I think you SHOULD stop visiting her and tell her the reasons, that you worry about her health, her life and that you can't stand being around the smoke. Handle it like an adult, get your reasons out clearly and calmly and maybe, just maybe she will stop smoking because she cares more about having a friendship with her son/daughter more than her next breath of nicotine.

[quote name='Goli' post='3384176' date='Jan 12 2011, 12:04 AM']Tell her that if she keeps smoking she'll have lung cancer.
Or her blood vessels's inner walls will become so weak she'll get an aneurysm.
And tell her that when either/both of those happen you won't be there to help her because she will be a victim of her own stupidity.[/quote]
I tried that before, she said "Don't lecture me."

[quote name='Blaze163' post='3384175' date='Jan 12 2011, 12:03 AM']That's pretty minor in comparison to my mother. She got so drunk when I was taking my A-Level exams that I got no sleep at all and passed out in my biology exam. Failed it, naturally. Cunts wouldn't even let me take a resit. Apparantly being unconscious for the exam was a failing on my part.

And then to make things worse she got blasted again and spent the night walking around in a storm, pissed off her face, trying to dive in front of traffic because having shown up at her boyfriend's house at 2AM and him answering the door in a dressing gown, that's apparantly cause to believe he's unfaithful. 'Cause that makes so much sense on paper...So yeah, I had to go along to try and stop her from killing herself, an action which cost me my health and most of my sanity.

So be thankful she's only smoking, get over it, let her relax in whatever way helps her, and appreciate what you have.[/quote]
Wow, sorry to hear that man, but I just hate smoking overall and can't even live with it, not to mention, she is basically killing herself and others who inhale that smoke.

[quote name='boombox' post='3384212' date='Jan 12 2011, 12:22 AM']It's a shame your Mum isn't taking your feelings and worry over this seriously.

I also despise smoking, there ARE other ways to deal with stress, healthier ways, but once a smoker - stays a smoker (most of the time).

So many smokers don't take smoking seriously, but they really should, it can cause more complications than cancer - bad blood circulation which can lead to a collapsed artery which then leads to needing a heart bypass to fix the problem.

I think you SHOULD stop visiting her and tell her the reasons, that you worry about her health, her life and that you can't stand being around the smoke. Handle it like an adult, get your reasons out clearly and calmly and maybe, just maybe she will stop smoking because she cares more about having a friendship with her son/daughter more than her next breath of nicotine.[/quote]
Exactly, she puts her own life (and others) at risk when there are other ways to deal with it, I like the idea, although it's going to take some effort saying it upfront but that's life.

I guess she has a kind of pressure in her life. I was a heavy smoker for a short period of my life when I lived in pressure environment. You may try to be a good boy and make her happy. I bet it will help her in some way.

Let people do what they want. You don't want to be around a smoker? Don't visit her.

[quote name='tomrev' post='3384485' date='Jan 12 2011, 03:19 AM']She may has pressure in her life. I once a heavy smoker for relief stress for a short period of my life when I lived in pressure job. You may try to be a good boy and make her happier, I bet it will help her in some way.[/quote]
Wow, no offence meant here but I'm 14, not a freaking 6 year old...last time someone said something like that to me was maybe when I was 8 or something...And I think you misunderstood the main idea of my post, my mum smokes, it does damage to her and others who inhale it (including me), and I can't handle it. I hope that didn't sound too mean, sure it was meant to be a little mean but only a little. =D


[quote name='Law' post='3384493' date='Jan 12 2011, 03:23 AM']Let people do what they want. You don't want to be around a smoker? Don't visit her.[/quote]
That's was also another point of the thread, I didn't know what to do, so basically now, if my mum wants to see me, she either: A: Doesn't smoke when I'm there, or B: She stops smoking.

[quote name='Law' post='3384493' date='Jan 11 2011, 11:23 AM']Let people do what they want. You don't want to be around a smoker? Don't visit her.[/quote]


Exactly. How about showing a little something called respect to your elders. She helped give you life and bring you into the world after all.

If you don't like the smoke run away and join a circus, you silly little monkey.

Well either two options...

1) Wait until she starts feeling winded (Usually happens when a person smokes A LOT, fatigue becomes more common) you can explain the reason of her fatigue.
2) A habit is formed from comfortablity, do a hablt that your mother dislike hopefully she comes into her senses.

[quote name='431unknown' post='3384500' date='Jan 12 2011, 03:28 AM'][quote name='Law' post='3384493' date='Jan 11 2011, 11:23 AM']Let people do what they want. You don't want to be around a smoker? Don't visit her.[/quote]


Exactly. How about showing a little something called respect to your elders. She helped give you life and bring you into the world after all.

If you don't like the smoke run away and join a circus, you silly little monkey.
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I suppose a bit more explanation is in order.

My mum barely gives a fuck about me, or it seems that way atleast. Considering my mum was the one who broke up our family by deciding to go do another guy and basically had nothing to do with me or my sister for about 1 year. (Only time I saw her was at dinner time)

So she has to pay child support or whatever it is called, my dad, dropped the payment to less than half price and yet she complains $35 a week is too much to pay for her own child who she fucked over in the first place.

And all this has happened and then she decides to smoke and I have told her I don't like it and that it is damaging her but she doesn't care.

So really, any stress she is under that makes her smoke is all her fault and she won't even take into consideration her own child's health.

[quote name='gifi4' post='3384510' date='Jan 11 2011, 11:34 AM'][quote name='431unknown' post='3384500' date='Jan 12 2011, 03:28 AM'][quote name='Law' post='3384493' date='Jan 11 2011, 11:23 AM']Let people do what they want. You don't want to be around a smoker? Don't visit her.[/quote]


Exactly. How about showing a little something called respect to your elders. She helped give you life and bring you into the world after all.

If you don't like the smoke run away and join a circus, you silly little monkey.
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I suppose a bit more explanation is in order.

My mum barely gives a fuck about me, or it seems that way atleast. Considering my mum was the one who broke up our family by deciding to go do another guy and basically had nothing to do with me or my sister for about 1 year. (Only time I saw her was at dinner time)

So she has to pay child support or whatever it is called, my dad, dropped the payment to less than half price and yet she complains $35 a week is too much to pay for her own child who she fucked over in the first place.

And all this has happened and then she decides to smoke and I have told her I don't like it and that it is damaging her but she doesn't care.
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Ok well then your not the only one she don't give a fuck about then seeing as she don't care about her own health.

How old is she and how often do you stay with her?

I was only joking about the monkey part btw.

how many does she smoke a day? Work out how much she is spending on cigarettes a month then think of something she'll like of equal value. Say something to her like "Would you like {whatever it is}?" "Then when she replies with a yes say to her something like "Well, i've worked it out and we can afford it.... if... you stop smoking."

[quote name='431unknown' post='3384521' date='Jan 12 2011, 03:37 AM'][quote name='gifi4' post='3384510' date='Jan 11 2011, 11:34 AM'][quote name='431unknown' post='3384500' date='Jan 12 2011, 03:28 AM'][quote name='Law' post='3384493' date='Jan 11 2011, 11:23 AM']Let people do what they want. You don't want to be around a smoker? Don't visit her.[/quote]


Exactly. How about showing a little something called respect to your elders. She helped give you life and bring you into the world after all.

If you don't like the smoke run away and join a circus, you silly little monkey.
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I suppose a bit more explanation is in order.

My mum barely gives a fuck about me, or it seems that way atleast. Considering my mum was the one who broke up our family by deciding to go do another guy and basically had nothing to do with me or my sister for about 1 year. (Only time I saw her was at dinner time)

So she has to pay child support or whatever it is called, my dad, dropped the payment to less than half price and yet she complains $35 a week is too much to pay for her own child who she fucked over in the first place.

And all this has happened and then she decides to smoke and I have told her I don't like it and that it is damaging her but she doesn't care.
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Ok well then your not the only one she don't give a fuck about then seeing as she don't care about her own health.

How old is she and how often do you stay with her?

I was only joking about the monkey part btw.
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She is only 45, only Tuesdays and Thursdays but I can't even handle that atm...Oh and the joke was obvious


[quote name='Wizzerzak' post='3384525' date='Jan 12 2011, 03:41 AM']how many does she smoke a day? Work out how much she is spending on cigarettes a month then think of something she'll like of equal value. Say something to her like "Would you like {whatever it is}?" "Then when she replies with a yes say to her something like "Well, i've worked it out and we can afford it.... if... you stop smoking."[/quote]
I don't really count but it's a hell of a lot. She won't agree to that though...

2 days a week and you can't handle that. This seems to be more about the other shit you mentioned or possibly something else. I'm 35 and only recently got to talk to my own mother (she's 76) about shit I had to endure growing up. Maybe you should talk to her about how the shit she's done in the past is effecting you today if its possible to talk to her about it as in she'll listen. For all you know she may smoke so much and drink because she don't know how to talk to you herself.

My mother rasied 7 kids and she told me that I was the first one to ever sit down and talk to her about the shit my father used to do. I love my dad god rest his soul but he was a mean prick and overbearing at times. He'd rather stick a steel toe boot up your ass and tell you how you fucked shit up than crack a smile and say nice job.

your lucky to even have a mother.

That's it? She smokes? And you can't handle it 2 times a week?


My faith in this generation is waning day by day.

[quote name='gifi4' post='3384158' date='Jan 11 2011, 04:56 AM']After my parents split up, my mum started smoking AGAIN (She smoked before I was born and until I was about 3) I absolutely hate smokers (not the person, just the fact that they smoke)

I hold my breath because I can't handle it, it makes me sick, close to vomiting, and yet my mum claims it all on stress, when I reply with "There are other ways to deal with stress" she loses it at me and says that this is her way... I'm only with my mum on Tuesdays and Thursdays but that is too much, because of her smoking.

I'm thinking of telling her that if she doesn't stop smoking, I'm not visiting her anymore, because I can't handle it.

I'm intrested in what yous all think, so get posting! =)[/quote]

You sir, just made my day.

I guess you should just stop visiting her.
Specially after reading this:

My mum barely gives a fuck about me, or it seems that way atleast. Considering my mum was the one who broke up our family by deciding to go do another guy and basically had nothing to do with me or my sister for about 1 year. (Only time I saw her was at dinner time)

So she has to pay child support or whatever it is called, my dad, dropped the payment to less than half price and yet she complains $35 a week is too much to pay for her own child who she fucked over in the first place.

And all this has happened and then she decides to smoke and I have told her I don't like it and that it is damaging her but she doesn't care.

So really, any stress she is under that makes her smoke is all her fault and she won't even take into consideration her own child's health.

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