I love my Bestfriend!

Awwwwwww.

[quote name='Schlupi' post='3760424' date='Jul 7 2011, 12:53 AM']Awwwwwww.

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lmao.. if she dont like him she'll say she dont wanna risk the friendship

[quote name='HateBreed' post='3760426' date='Jul 7 2011, 12:54 AM'][quote name='Schlupi' post='3760424' date='Jul 7 2011, 12:53 AM']Awwwwwww.

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lmao.. if she dont like him she'll say she dont wanna risk the friendship
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I know. I am kidding.

Maybe this "most problematic situation" is that he loves her?

If not good on you, especially if it is coming from a totally platonic place.

oh ow...we knew our limitations and like each other...
there is a perfect time and place for everything...we already take the risk,and it makes our friendship really really so amazing and we knew what's best for us now..

[quote name='cwstjdenobs' post='3760434' date='Jul 7 2011, 08:01 AM']Maybe this "most problematic situation" is that he loves her?

If not good on you, especially if it is coming from a totally platonic place.[/quote]


check..

For all the problems we encounter and this "most problematic situation" I knew now that nothing can make us separate in our heart.
I just cant express the feeling that I'm so grateful that I have her.

Your profile does not say; are you a male of a female?

[quote name='Schlupi' post='3760445' date='Jul 7 2011, 08:14 AM']Your profile does not say; are you a male of a female? [/quote]


Im a male.

[quote name='blueshockz' post='3760447' date='Jul 7 2011, 01:16 AM'][quote name='Schlupi' post='3760445' date='Jul 7 2011, 08:14 AM']Your profile does not say; are you a male of a female? [/quote]


Im a male.
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Ah ok. I am glad you have a member of the opposite gender who appreciates you.

In all seriousness, I would say make sure not to make her feel awkward. Don't listen to my spoiler advice; pro tip:

THIS ====>

USUALLY means the person is joking/trolling.

[quote name='Schlupi' post='3760451' date='Jul 7 2011, 08:18 AM'][quote name='blueshockz' post='3760447' date='Jul 7 2011, 01:16 AM'][quote name='Schlupi' post='3760445' date='Jul 7 2011, 08:14 AM']Your profile does not say; are you a male of a female? [/quote]


Im a male.
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Ah ok. I am glad you have a member of the opposite gender who appreciates you.

In all seriousness, I would say make sure not to make her feel awkward. Don't listen to my spoiler advice; pro tip:

THIS ====>

USUALLY means the person is joking/trolling.
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I see but i think everything in our life now and in the future will be so wonderful so i don't need to worry..

Though I'm really happy for you, pal, and I MEAN it, I doubt that frendship between a man and a woman exists. It either becomes something more - which gradually seems to be your case - or... Let's not think about it. Happy for you!

[quote name='ibis_87' post='3760469' date='Jul 7 2011, 02:34 AM']Though I'm really happy for you, pal, and I MEAN it, I doubt that frendship between a man and a woman exists. It either becomes something more - which gradually seems to be decoming your case - or... Let's not think about it. Happy for you![/quote]
Sorry, that is your point, everything handled correct leads to a good ending. In my case, I also liked my best friend, we dated like a year and a half and now we are still the best friends =)
So to the OP, just handle things good =)

...I need friends I:

Well, I'm not a wise old man yet, so there SHOULD be cases I don't know that prove the opposite. All I said above was just my opinion

Besides, I 10000% agree that everything handled correctly leeds to a good ending. I just believe that this good ending is the most wondeful thing in the world called real love

[quote name='ibis_87' post='3760486' date='Jul 7 2011, 08:45 AM']Well, I'm not a wise old man yet, so there SHOULD be cases I don't know that prove the opposite. All I said above was just my opinion

Besides, I 10000% agree that everything handled correctly leeds to a good ending. I just believe that this good ending is the most wondeful thing in the world called real love [/quote]


Just want to say thank you to all your very wonderful comments and advises...

1.Break the "nice guy" or "sweet girl" stereotype. Most guys and girls who find themselves in the "friend zone" are usually susceptible to many of the characteristics of the "nice guy" or "sweet girl" stereotype. This means pretty much someone who wants to avoid making other people uncomfortable at any cost, but does so usually at their own expense by not communicating their own needs. Where you're romantically attracted to someone, but you don't want to "pressure" them into a relationship, or "ruin" the friendship by expressing your interest or making a move, you'll end up holding back in a variety of ways. The trouble is, when you make other people's feelings more important than your own (instead of finding that happy balance), you're unconsciously communicating to people that your own feelings don't matter. This may make it seem like you have low self-worth, which is the opposite of confidence.

While some people are attracted to ever agreeable mates, the person who assigned you to the "friend zone" probably is not. If nothing else, inaction tells the other person that you're simply not interested (chances are, even if they never felt attracted to you, they wondered about your intentions).

2.Stop being needy. One of the reasons you might be interested in this person more than they're into you is because you are giving off signals that you really want to be in a relationship! You might be coming off as a little desperate, which is quite the attraction killer. You might be rushing things emotionally. You might also be placing this person on a pedestal, because you're so caught up in the idea of the relationship, that you're quick to assume this person is "perfect".

3.Think about the difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship. If you think a romantic relationship should just be a great friendship with physical intimacy thrown into the mix, then it's understandable to look for common ground first, and wait for the physical attraction to kick in sooner or later. But not everyone sees relationships this way. Some people expect a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" to play a particular role in their lives in order for physical attraction to emerge. The person who you want to be more than friends with probably makes a bigger distinction between "friend" and "romantic partner" than you do. Realize that many people (both male and female) expect to be courted in some way. And many psychological issues play out in the relationship arena that don't ever arise in friendships. Some people, for example, look for a romantic partner who can play more of a parental role than a friend would.

Figure out what the person you're pining for wants in a boyfriend or girlfriend. Then decide whether you want to be that for them.
Note that some people are attracted to toxic relationships. If your love interests keeps getting involved with people who treat them badly, despite your advice, you might just have to accept that they're working through some issues. You could spend your entire life waiting for them to "see the light" or you could move on and find someone who actually (through their actions, not their words) wants a healthy relationship.

4.Break the touch barrier. For many people, a big distinction between "friendship" and "relationship" is the way they touch. There are platonic ways to touch someone, and romantic ways, and the boundary is different for different people. But if you're terrified of touching someone the wrong way, to the extent that you hesitate and never touch them first, your intentions may be good but your "touch paralysis" isn't helping you at all in the romantic department. Take a few little "touch risks". Reach for their hands, hair, shoulders, ankles, and back. Don't just always wait for them to do it first. If they don't like it, they'll definitely let you know. But touching someone communicates to them that you find them attractive, and also that you're reasonably confident. Both of these things can make someone feel more attracted to you.

There are more tips in How to Touch a Girl and How to Hint for a Kiss from a Guy.
Note that some people are very affectionate with their friends; the person you're interested in might be all about cuddling with you, and think nothing more of it than friendliness, while you feel like you're getting mixed signals. At some point the person you are interested in needs to give out or give in.

5.Realize that you're "tying up" your feelings by staying friends with someone who isn't romantically interested in you. In the instance where you've already followed the previous steps and you've left your pushover habits behind, you've stepped up to role that he or she is looking for in a relationship, and you've crossed the touch barrier, but this person still wants to be "just friends", you'll need to make some hard decisions. Maybe they're simply not attracted to you, for reasons you'll never know. But you still have feelings for them. Is it wise to continue spending time with them?

Consider that it'll be difficult to develop feelings for someone else if your feelings for this person are fueled every time you hang out. You'll struggle with feelings of jealousy and frustration when that person dates. Consider that even if you do manage to develop feelings for someone else, your heart might always be torn and confused, and it'll be hard to give your new flame your undivided affection.
Sometimes the best thing to do is to take the friendship down to the level of acquaintance. The person might feel offended, perhaps it will seem as if you don't value them as just a friend, but remember (and explain to them if necessary) that you can't control how you feel, just like they can't control how they feel, and you need to make room in your life and heart for someone who feels about you the way you feel about them.

[quote name='Pong20302000' post='3760913' date='Jul 7 2011, 02:12 PM']

1.Break the "nice guy" or "sweet girl" stereotype. Most guys and girls who find themselves in the "friend zone" are usually susceptible to many of the characteristics of the "nice guy" or "sweet girl" stereotype. This means pretty much someone who wants to avoid making other people uncomfortable at any cost, but does so usually at their own expense by not communicating their own needs. Where you're romantically attracted to someone, but you don't want to "pressure" them into a relationship, or "ruin" the friendship by expressing your interest or making a move, you'll end up holding back in a variety of ways. The trouble is, when you make other people's feelings more important than your own (instead of finding that happy balance), you're unconsciously communicating to people that your own feelings don't matter. This may make it seem like you have low self-worth, which is the opposite of confidence.

While some people are attracted to ever agreeable mates, the person who assigned you to the "friend zone" probably is not. If nothing else, inaction tells the other person that you're simply not interested (chances are, even if they never felt attracted to you, they wondered about your intentions).

2.Stop being needy. One of the reasons you might be interested in this person more than they're into you is because you are giving off signals that you really want to be in a relationship! You might be coming off as a little desperate, which is quite the attraction killer. You might be rushing things emotionally. You might also be placing this person on a pedestal, because you're so caught up in the idea of the relationship, that you're quick to assume this person is "perfect".

3.Think about the difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship. If you think a romantic relationship should just be a great friendship with physical intimacy thrown into the mix, then it's understandable to look for common ground first, and wait for the physical attraction to kick in sooner or later. But not everyone sees relationships this way. Some people expect a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" to play a particular role in their lives in order for physical attraction to emerge. The person who you want to be more than friends with probably makes a bigger distinction between "friend" and "romantic partner" than you do. Realize that many people (both male and female) expect to be courted in some way. And many psychological issues play out in the relationship arena that don't ever arise in friendships. Some people, for example, look for a romantic partner who can play more of a parental role than a friend would.

Figure out what the person you're pining for wants in a boyfriend or girlfriend. Then decide whether you want to be that for them.
Note that some people are attracted to toxic relationships. If your love interests keeps getting involved with people who treat them badly, despite your advice, you might just have to accept that they're working through some issues. You could spend your entire life waiting for them to "see the light" or you could move on and find someone who actually (through their actions, not their words) wants a healthy relationship.

4.Break the touch barrier. For many people, a big distinction between "friendship" and "relationship" is the way they touch. There are platonic ways to touch someone, and romantic ways, and the boundary is different for different people. But if you're terrified of touching someone the wrong way, to the extent that you hesitate and never touch them first, your intentions may be good but your "touch paralysis" isn't helping you at all in the romantic department. Take a few little "touch risks". Reach for their hands, hair, shoulders, ankles, and back. Don't just always wait for them to do it first. If they don't like it, they'll definitely let you know. But touching someone communicates to them that you find them attractive, and also that you're reasonably confident. Both of these things can make someone feel more attracted to you.

There are more tips in How to Touch a Girl and How to Hint for a Kiss from a Guy.
Note that some people are very affectionate with their friends; the person you're interested in might be all about cuddling with you, and think nothing more of it than friendliness, while you feel like you're getting mixed signals. At some point the person you are interested in needs to give out or give in.

5.Realize that you're "tying up" your feelings by staying friends with someone who isn't romantically interested in you. In the instance where you've already followed the previous steps and you've left your pushover habits behind, you've stepped up to role that he or she is looking for in a relationship, and you've crossed the touch barrier, but this person still wants to be "just friends", you'll need to make some hard decisions. Maybe they're simply not attracted to you, for reasons you'll never know. But you still have feelings for them. Is it wise to continue spending time with them?

Consider that it'll be difficult to develop feelings for someone else if your feelings for this person are fueled every time you hang out. You'll struggle with feelings of jealousy and frustration when that person dates. Consider that even if you do manage to develop feelings for someone else, your heart might always be torn and confused, and it'll be hard to give your new flame your undivided affection.
Sometimes the best thing to do is to take the friendship down to the level of acquaintance. The person might feel offended, perhaps it will seem as if you don't value them as just a friend, but remember (and explain to them if necessary) that you can't control how you feel, just like they can't control how they feel, and you need to make room in your life and heart for someone who feels about you the way you feel about them.[/quote]

Thank you for this. But there are things I think I can only understand because it happen to us already and because there are good and bad events in our life that I never think that will happen and now that makes both of us closer even we are apart. I think our friendship is really unbelievable and no matter what happen there is nothing can break it. Someday I will post our story here and you will be amazed how great it is, but now I knew i just need to focus to reach my goals in life with/without her...(Everything handled correctly lead to a good ending,thank you Necron N.N for this very inspiring message and I think this is why our relationship continues)...=))

[quote name='blueshockz' post='3760438' date='Jul 7 2011, 02:03 AM']oh ow...we knew our limitations and like each other...
there is a perfect time and place for everything...we already take the risk,and it makes our friendship really really so amazing and we knew what's best for us now..[/quote]
am i reading this wrong or are you saying you already laid her?

[quote name='Pong20302000' post='3760913' date='Jul 7 2011, 08:12 AM']big ass copy pasta[/quote]
u might want to ask how old he is first

[quote name='Pong20302000' post='3760913' date='Jul 7 2011, 08:12 AM']big ass copy pasta[/quote]
Heh, This could almost pass for the guides section here in GBAtemp. I'd post it if I were you!

except it'd be plagiarism