I don't know how to communicate with humans

I don't have a lot of people in my world, I have my fiancee and my son but apart from people who choose to be around me I have nobody,

I think I suffer from social anxiety and this has driven me to be a very sceptical and negative person, always thinking people have an alterior motive and questioning maybe general interactions. Because of this I say certain people are assholes and I avoid them at all costs.

I struggle to talk to people I don't know and look for an out as quick as possible, even to the point of ignoring people if I can, for example if I'm at the water cooler with a colleague I will say nothing, fill up my water bottle and leave as soon as I can, at time I will just walk there, see people I know and then walk the other way, just to avoid interaction. It's even come to the point that when I post on this site and people don't respond to my comments I take it as if I have nothing important to say.

I hate who I am, I wish I could have genuine connections, I wish I could respond healthily and not dissect every interaction I have. I wish I could atleast be a little positive.

I've had a shit time in life, rejected by my parents at 16, been in socal care and been homeless for portions of my life, this was a while ago but I guess I've struggled to let go of this and I don't know how to move on.

I wish I could resemble some form of nornal
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mrdude
Posting crap like this won't make you get any more friends - you've already said yourself that you don't trust/like people and avoid making new friends.
Unless you change your way of thinking and learn to accept people for what/who they are rather than trying to find people that fit in with how you think they should be, you'll end up a lonely person indeed as you'll end up driving all your wife's friends and kids friends away as well, and they will end up leaving you because of this - and then you'll really be alone.

Anyway, if you don't like my answer - because it's not what you wanted to hear - don't post stuff like this on a public forum.
 
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yusuo
Easier said then done, I wish I could change my way of thinking but it's not quite so simple really
 
focusonme
i feel you man have the same problem...
i would search for help on REDDIT not here...only trolls here
 
9
honestly same, people think im trying to be an ass for not wanting to interact with them but i just don't have the mental power to communicate from my crippling depression. it bothers me and no one understands how i feel.
 
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Sliter
I know you mean more like not online interactions because I'm also like this idk ...even online, I wanted to talk more with you but I feared it would look like I was require about that 2DS :x

The thing about that being more social is trying to chill too... even I'm not being good to all that XD but don't want much from the others and from yourself
 
VinsCool
Sometimes you need a good kick in the ass.
Avoiding social encounters won't improve the situation. Trying to have a tiny bit of chat at least once a day could make a difference.

@focusonme there are not only the nintendo hacking subforums you know. I can attest there are plenty of genuine people around here.
 
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Kioku
People suck. Social interactions are utter shit. Why? I can't tell you. What I CAN tell you is that everyone I've met to date has their best interests in mind and will waste no time to throw you under the bus. I have a disdain toward everyone. The only people I trust are my wife, daughter and mother. You can try to have a more positive outlook and see the world with bright eyes. It's never worked for me.
 
Bimmel
We should found a depression club for all of you, where you can tell each other how bad and shitty people are.

But on a serious note: I know it's not easy, but try to practice and it will become easier. Yelling about it won't change a thing. Try little steps that feel okay at first, steady going a step further. Good luck!
 
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M
Mr.Dude's post was incredibly rude and childish. The fact that he has 5 likes on his absolute trash post goes to show that most people that come on this forum lack social tact. I understand why you don't want to be friends with people.Even the ugliest meanest person on GBAtemp(or IRL) has entitlement problems and it seems like this whole "I am therefore I deserve" mentality affects everyone in life. You can find the biggest loser from your high school and I guarantee that he feels he deserves the prettiest women alive and money for doing nothing. We have too many of these types in the world TBH. Just be happy you have a wife and a kid.
 
Pleng
@Memoir

everyone I've met to date has their best interests in mind and will waste no time to throw you under the bus. I have a disdain toward everyone
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If you feel distain towards everone, it's no wonder everyone you meet would have no problems throwing you under a bus. An attitude like that must make you come across as a quite frankly terrible human being.
 
Zepman
choose to be positive and happy.
don't wait for extraordinary changes but be attentive to small positives and happy things around you.
 
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Cyan
random thoughts:

Why do you want to change?
You already have a wife and a kid, you don't really need anyone else. your life can be beautiful with what you have right now.

But, maybe I understand you as I also try to meet people, and ends not liking it. I wonder why I even try. But I don't have anyone at all, while you are not alone.

Everyone will have their best interest in mind, starting by yourself.
 
pustal
Get an offline hobby that involve other people, choose a team sport to practice, go out, accept invitations whenever you have one, etc. Put yourself out of your confort zone until you are confortable.
 
Alex4nder001
Well, at least you have a girlfriend (wife by now probably). Im nearly 18 and I’ve never had one girlfriend.
Anyways... you should probably ask on Reddit instead of here.
P.S. Have you tried taking drugs?
 

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