i had seen some folks talking about their issues and problems on blogs (the last one being @RevPokemon
and i wanted to apologize to something...
i want to apologize to rarely give you some support, when you (gbatemp friends) "unburden" (not sure if the word is correct, used google translate for it)
i never know what to say.. i wanted to say something but i really don't know what to say, i could say the usualy stuff like "i am sorry for your lost" or sorry or other stuff, but i hate that... i mean... everyone deals with pain differently... if someone close to me died, i am the kind of person who doesn't give a shit about funerals.. i don't understand them... i notice several people that are there just as a favour and morals.. but they don't want to be there...
and i surelly would hate a line of 10 or more people and everyone saying the same damn thing "i am sorry for your lost" or "i am sorry" or the "if you need anything, tell me"
i understand that people want to be nice, and empathy but i have a bad reaction to that, i feel like the world is shoving at my face that my friend\relative died and i just want to be alone...
or i feel that people are saying that stuff just because it's a society rule.. and almost forced to it.. or it feeks like its programmed into peoples head like a computer program.. "if migles is less than 1 meter away, apology for his lost"
so, i am the kind of guy that, if you want to talk with me, go ahead, i am here to listen and i will try to give an opinion, other times i try to distract the person and try to being funny so the person in pain can get some distraction and try to stop thinking about the bad stuff
but i am not the guy that likes to say the regular stuff that is said on this situations.., but not saying it, usually makes me look like an asshole, so i decided to write this, i usually read your letters and your stuff, but if you didnt get a message from me, it doesn't mean i don't have a hearth, i just don't like to say the usually stuff, but then i don't know what else to say to show empathy\sympathy...
but sure you can always pm me, and i will try to spend some time to talk with you, not because i feel obligated to, but because sometimes, i also need it...
and i wanted to apologize to something...
i want to apologize to rarely give you some support, when you (gbatemp friends) "unburden" (not sure if the word is correct, used google translate for it)
i never know what to say.. i wanted to say something but i really don't know what to say, i could say the usualy stuff like "i am sorry for your lost" or sorry or other stuff, but i hate that... i mean... everyone deals with pain differently... if someone close to me died, i am the kind of person who doesn't give a shit about funerals.. i don't understand them... i notice several people that are there just as a favour and morals.. but they don't want to be there...
and i surelly would hate a line of 10 or more people and everyone saying the same damn thing "i am sorry for your lost" or "i am sorry" or the "if you need anything, tell me"
i understand that people want to be nice, and empathy but i have a bad reaction to that, i feel like the world is shoving at my face that my friend\relative died and i just want to be alone...
or i feel that people are saying that stuff just because it's a society rule.. and almost forced to it.. or it feeks like its programmed into peoples head like a computer program.. "if migles is less than 1 meter away, apology for his lost"
so, i am the kind of guy that, if you want to talk with me, go ahead, i am here to listen and i will try to give an opinion, other times i try to distract the person and try to being funny so the person in pain can get some distraction and try to stop thinking about the bad stuff
but i am not the guy that likes to say the regular stuff that is said on this situations.., but not saying it, usually makes me look like an asshole, so i decided to write this, i usually read your letters and your stuff, but if you didnt get a message from me, it doesn't mean i don't have a hearth, i just don't like to say the usually stuff, but then i don't know what else to say to show empathy\sympathy...
but sure you can always pm me, and i will try to spend some time to talk with you, not because i feel obligated to, but because sometimes, i also need it...
