Yes, that's what I mean. My card won't show up anymore, so I can't do upgrades or anything. Also tried it on a DS Lite, also 'no card inserted' I use the Chinese update file for 6.0.0, mentioned here, the upgrader is called 'R4i Flash Writer'. Is there anything I can do about this? As said before, I already tried card-swapping, but the upgrade program doesn't have an option that allows that (see this thread I posted: http://gbatemp.net/threads/bricked-r4-dual-core-2013.350449/#post-4694225). Maybe another firmware upgrader will do the job?
If your card already was bricked than i think it is not possible to unbrick it, i have tried it but did not succeed.
I tried it on a lite, the same as you experienced it froze at erasing, with an dsixl it erased and did the flash but after that the card still was bricked.
The chinese update i think only benefits those who flashed their 2013 with with the "NEW" firmware an so locked their card out for the 5.1 nintendo firmware.
Maybe someone else has more info on unbricking and "hot flashing" the r4i....