Sounds like the competitive scene just isn't for you then. That's a scene not so much focused on having the most fun possible, but instead focused on winning at whatever the cost (so long as nothing is technically considered cheating). So you move into finding exploits and properly understanding the larger meta game. I'll admit that this kind of stuff can be a deterrent from online gaming for me, but local multiplayer with your friends is always a blast, and I do like how online modes are often the driving force in becoming a more skilled player in the game of question. Plus, in this age of patches and updates, the most unbalanced of fighters can easily be more balanced with the push of an update.